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When God Writes Your Love Story…

Hey 👋🏼 Ladies!!!

The reason I have not had a chance to write to you, is because ya girl has been crazy busy lately! When I tell you I am so overdue for a pampering spa-package and a beach 🏖 vacay, I don’t know what to do!

Any who, today’s blog is not about me,

It’s about us.

Yes Ladies..

US..

Getting the love we deserve,

being treated with respect

having our hearts handled with care.

And US, knowing who we are, and not settling for anything less than what we truly deserve.

A man who will have a heart after God and a man who will love us to infinity and beyond. 

With that being said ladies, without further ado, I present to you, “When God Writes Your Love Story.”

1. 😇 You won’t be in constant battle ✍🏼

I am a firm believer, that when God writes your love story, it will be one of the most peaceful relationships ever.

Why?

Because God will be in it!

I know I’ve probably mentioned this before, but I want you ladies to really understand me.

The only time you or your guy friend should ever be warring is when the two of you are (warring in prayer for one another, or against the enemy). There should never be an ongoing war just to maintain your relationship.

  • You should not be warring and praying that a man calls you back
  • You should not be fasting for him to take you out on a date
  • And you definitely shouldn’t have to call the mother board & intercessory team, to touch & agree with you that a man will see your worth and choose you to be his wife.

(Yes I have been around women in the church who have actually done that) 🤦🏽‍♀️

If you’re doing all that praying and warring just to get him, can you imagine all the trouble you will have to go through to keep him?

The truth is,

⭐️NOTE: You will never have to war for a man whom The Lord is ready & willing to give to you.

Although, you will have to (cover) your boyfriend or soon to be husband in prayer, (because the enemy will try to attack what God has joined together) however, you should not be warring for the basic requirements a man should provide in an exclusive relationship.

It just doesn’t make sense.

I know it may hurt to let someone go who’s been apart of your life for many months or years, but God wants to give you someone greater than a man who’s only giving 20% of himself. Retire from your tug-o-war game sis and show The Lord you trust Him!

Let go and make room for The New Thing God wants to do in your life!

⭐️NOTE: When God has approved the two of you, His grace will flow all over the relationship, because you’re in alignment with His will.

2. 😇 You won’t have to change yourself ✍🏼

When God is writing your story, you won’t have to change who you are just to make this person happy.

I am a woman who’s Loves the Lord, I love worshipping, I’m silly, I sing, I love to cook, I love writing, I enjoy cleaning, I’m extremely goofy, I’m sweet and laid back, yet very discerning. I’m deep, I find revelation in the smallest of things and I see in the spiritual realm; angels, demons and all.

But if I have to stop being deep, stop singing, stop being silly or dumb myself down just because I don’t want to seem like I’m too much for someone, God is not in it.

⭐️NOTE: Know the value of self.

I am very valuable, and I know that now more than ever before. Years ago, when I didn’t know my value, I would pretend to be weak, dumb and many other things, just so I wouldn’t intimidate or offend the man I was dating.

But now… I simply don’t care 🤷🏽‍♀️ lol.

And neither should you.

If you have to make major changes in your personality, or alter the best parts of you, I guarantee! You are not getting Gods best. God would never ask you to hide the real you for a man sis.

So, don’t do it!

Let the real you shine ☀️ and your Hubby will be attracted to you. Not some fake made up version you’re pretending to be.

⭐️NOTE: If he doesn’t like the real you, he’s not who God has for you.

3. 😇 You Will Feel Special ✍🏼

When God is writing your love story, He will give you a man that will sweep you off your feet.

My sis at my church ⛪ just got engaged in the most romantic way ever, and this man is head over heels for her as she is for him. The love they have for one another and all the planning this man did, had all the sisters in church in tears! Especially me!

Hearing her love story and seeing the engagement video not only gave me hope that God will have someone like that for me one day, but it also confirmed what I already knew about men.

And what I knew was when a man is truly in love with you, he will go to great depths just to make sure you know that. Time will not separate his love and circumstances will not make him change his mind. He will even move mountains if he has to.

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If you’re with a man and your unsure of his feelings for you, he never defines the relationship, or he simply seems to not care much about the relationship at all?

It’s probably time to rest and give that thing up sis..

The Bible says,

⭐️Proverbs 10:22– The blessings of the Lord makes a person rich, and He adds no sorrow with it.

What God is saying is that every blessing that comes from Him will prosper you and make you richer and there will be no sorrow attached to it!

Ask yourself,

Is this person making me richer?

What value are they adding to my life?

Are they depositing into me or simply withdrawing?

If you’re sorrowful, warring all the time and feel as if you are left hanging like a loose thread, think 💭 is this who The Father? The giver of good gifts truly have for me?

Some of you already know the answer to that question.

But for the ones who don’t know and really want clarity, Pray and ask God about them. (Just be ready for the answer).

And if The Lord is not writing your love story, and you want Him to; I challenge you to turn in your ink pen and allow Him (The Author and finisher of our Faith) to write a love story that will be divinely directed by The Lord Himself.

As always,

Love you girls!

Xoxo 😘

Love,

🌻 Takyah 🌻

The Truth About The One.

It seems like much of our lives is spent on wondering about the one, when they’re going to show up, how will we know when it’s them, etc. Such and so forth..

I think sometimes we as singles can overthink it so much, to where “The One” literally passes us by. In today’s blog, “The Truth About The One.” I’m going to give you three practical tips you can use when it comes to finding the one. I hope these little nuggets will help make finding your true love even easier.

1. Ask God

Who wants a relationship without the Lord being involved?

I know I don’t!

I’ve had too many relationships in the past without His blessing and all of them quickly turned sour.

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One thing I’ve learned from experience is that,

If God is not in it, neither will I be.

Including The Lord in your decision making process rids your love life from a lot of confusion. I believe The Lord will surround any relationship He approves of, with “His Peace.”

I don’t want to stay on this point too long, because I think it’s pretty self explanatory. However, I must make some things very clear. When it comes to asking the Lord if someone is “The One.” Make sure you’re hearing from God👂🏽and not from people or yourself. You don’t want to say “Yes!” to someone The Lord has not approved of, neither do you want to dismiss a person The Lord has placed right in front of you.

Something happened to me a while ago, and I thought I heard the Lord say something about this man I was interested in. Turns out,

The Lord never said anything…😬

Just recently when I asked The Lord about this man again, (just out of curiosity) His response was this,

Takyah I never told you anything about him. You simply took my silence as Me saying No.”

After hearing that, all I could say was “Oh.”

In reality, what really happened was, I’d become anxious and wanted to know right away if this was “The One“.

(Because I sometimes fear wasting time, if ever I start to like someone, I usually go to God and get straight to the point)!

But, since The Lord didn’t answer me quick enough (like I wanted Him to) I did what I’m notorious for doing! I messed the whole thing up!

Yep 👍🏼! That’s good ole classic Takyah! (lol)img_5849

I told myself “no” told the guy “no.” Then I completely shut myself down from this person and went on about my business.

⭐️NOTE: Have patience singles and try not to be “so deep.”

Sometimes, God will say “No.” right away, and sometimes (as I’ve just recently learned) He will be silent, and leave the rest for you to figure out. If you’ve already messed it up, like me. That’s okay! God already knew you were going to do that from the beginning, so don’t fret my loves!

If God wants someone for you, He knows how to make people do a total (360) & come back around! & if not, God’s got your back regardless! Trust sis/bro The Lord is not slack on giving out spouses!

However, for future references, I do want to leave you with a wisdom nugget.

⭐️NOTE: Don’t mess up something with someone that could be good for you, because you didn’t get a, “YES THIS IS THE ONE!” from God right away.

2. The Person You Can’t Live Without

This point is mainly for my guys.

When it comes to finding “The One“, because (finding/pursuing) her, is mainly a job shared between you and The Lord.

Yes! The Lord will help you out fellas. He did it for Adam, he did it for Isaac, and he can do it for you! He is no respecter of persons.

However, once God presents someone to you, you do have a part! I want to give you a tip that I believe is going to help make your part just a little bit easier!

Let’s say you talk to 3 different women.

And don’t dare give me that, “I only talk to one woman at a time crap!” Because I don’t want to hear it 🤚🏽!

I know men.

Now, back to the point.

Let’s say you’re talking to 3 different women. Not exclusively in a relationship with each one, (that’s cheating) but let’s just say you’re simply talking to them, and getting to know each one a little better, (before you decide on which one you want to be with).

When it comes to narrowing it down and finding “The One.” I want you to get a mental picture of all three women that you talk to.

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Got the picture?

Okay great👍🏼!

Now that you’ve got that picture. I want you to take the first woman and completely erase her from your little black book!

Because now, Lady number one has just gotten married!!!

And the man she got married to

Was Not You.

Envision this woman posting pictures of her and her new man,

and how much fun they’re having together on all these beautiful trips!

Envision her and her husband (not you) posting “It’s a boy!” Baby pictures all on her timeline.

Imagine watching from the sidelines as her and her new hubby opens up a business together and becomes all cute and successful!

And then The Holidays roll around…

and just when you thought you’ve had enough,

Her husband (Not You) posts about how much he loves her, how she’s the best Gift God could have ever given him, (blah, blah, blah)

Envision this same scenario with the second woman in it, and finally the third.

The woman who (the idea of her being with someone else) angers/grieves you the most, is probably the one you should focus on. Obviously, (unbeknownst to you) she’s the one you like the most.

It’s not rocket 🚀 science fellas. It’s actually quite simple.

When it comes to “The One“, I think you should simply,

⭐️Find the person you can’t live without and make it work with them.

If you’re okay, with your lady friend marrying someone else and seeing pictures of her and her new boo posted all down your timeline, (and it doesn’t bother you) you’re probably just wasting time with her (until you think someone else better comes along).

But….

If something inside of you boils 😤 when you picture a particular woman getting married and you know you would NOT be happy seeing this woman with someone else.

Let that be an indicator that you should (probably) do something about it, and if you’re already talking to her, maybe you should make the relationship between the two of you exclusive. By all means don’t rush into anything! But, I must warn you not to be too slow either.

We don’t want this picture below to be your fate.😬

3. Opposites Attract

(This tip is not a prerequisite to finding “The One” I just think it’s pretty cool.)

Having someone who thinks differently than you is beautiful. Your not annoyed by each other. Yet you compliment each other so well.

You like hot 🔥 they like cold ❄️so you guys decide that warm is best for the both of you.

You like banana’s 🍌, they like pudding 🥣and you put them both together and you got a delicious 🤤 banana pudding. (I made banana pudding the other day, that’s why I used that example.)

But you guys get where I’m going with this! Right? (lol)

The Thing is, opposites make great relationships. You have one person who’s spontaneous and another person who stays in the box, and it’s a complete adventure when the two of them get together.

It’s a healthy balance.

I don’t know about you, but I once tried to date someone who was just like me, and it was boring. We made great friends. But boyfriend and girlfriend?

Uhm no.

We were so much alike it was crazy! Even his birthday was a few days before mine! He didn’t challenge me, he didn’t think differently than me, we always thought just alike.

It was a nice… boring relationship…

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In finding “The One” I believe being with someone who’s different than you can be so beneficial. It’s okay to have some things in common but having everything in common is not that fun.

⭐️NOTE: Don’t shy away from people because they’re different from you, you might miss out on meeting a great person.

Embrace your differences and learn the world through someone else’s point of view. That’s what makes relationships truly beautiful!

Once again it has been my pleasure!

Until next time!

Love,

Takyah Love

Dear, Future Husband…

I never thought I would say this…

But, here I am saying it.

“I Am Afraid To Love..”

There have been some things going on in my life lately regarding you, and honestly they’ve made me back into a corner with fear…

First, there was the books.

A few months ago, wedding books began to pop up in my mailbox, with my name on them, I did not subscribe to buy these books, I did not sign up for a free trial. I didn’t do any of that. And yet, here I am with a stack of them.

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Weird thing is, they started coming when I had completely given up on you. I literally told The Lord I would be okay, if you did not come. I asked The Lord if I could just dedicate my life and body to him permanently and not have any children or get married. I asked Him could I live like Kathryn Kulhman.

He immediately said “No.” The day after I asked that, A Bridal-magazine was in the mailbox📬. I asked my mother did she do it? (Because she was the only one who knew about my frustrations). When she told me no. I was amazed! They’ve been coming to my house ever since that day. (This is still an unsolved mystery).🕵🏽‍♀️

The second thing was, the dress.

In the month of October🍂, 2017 The Lord spoke to me and told me to “Go buy the dress.”

The dress I would be wearing on our first date…

I shrieked inside and began to bite my nails.

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In the four years that I have been single, The Lord has NEVER spoken to me concerning dating. A few years ago, He literally sat me down and told me I was not allowed to date. I tried to sometimes get around it, buttt He blocked it.

Let’s just say He really has your back. 🙄

But the crazy thing is, while buying this dress I only had $56.00 in my bank account at the time. The dress however was $77.00. But The Lord literally proved to me that it was time to start preparing for your arrival. When I looked at the price tag He said, “Don’t worry about the price.” So I didn’t. I simply walked up to the counter and proceeded to purchase the dress.

While I was checking out, the girl who was ringing me out told me to wait, she then started typing on the computer and suddenly the dress went from $77.00 to $30.00. She smiled and told me, “Here’s your new price.” I didn’t ask for a discount, I didn’t open my mouth, I didn’t even let the girl know I didn’t have enough money.

It was so crazy!

My mom and aunt (who came with me to the mall) both praised God and thanked Him for His favor. I even testified about this in church. But then…once I realized this was The Lord’s doing and not mine. I started getting really nervous.

And now the icing on the cake…

Strawberry cake with white cream on wooden background

Last week I had a dream about being married to you.

I did not clearly see who you were, but I could not ignore the Joy and Peace I felt with you. It was one of the most beautiful dreams I’ve ever had.

In the dream, we had a boat/ yacht or whatever those things are called and you drove the boat out on the water and I was holding onto you as the sun was setting. The sun was so bright and beautiful. The water was shimmering.We lived in a huge house with big glass windows. It was close to the river/ocean. And we both were very happy.

I woke up from the dream feeling so many emotions. Mostly joy! But when I started to think about it, I became afraid. And although I am happy you will be coming soon, I am also a little,

well a lot scared…

But I want to tell you that while we’re dating, if I start to run, don’t let me. If I am yours and you are mine, don’t let me get away. Me running 🏃🏽‍♀️ is not me not liking you, me running is actually me liking you a whole lot. Whenever I cant control my feelings I tend to do that. Don’t be scared if I start to act weird or seem like I’m avoiding you. That’s only my way of saying “I’m falling for you.”

Also, please be yourself. If you’re silly, be silly. If you’re confident be that. If your romantic be that. If your shy be that. If you have a trust problem or some other issue, please don’t hide it from me. Show me your good and bad side. I want to learn the real you, not a fake version of you.

While I’m at it, I might as well tell you a little bit more about me.

Things I like and don’t like

  • I don’t like liars 🤥
  • I don’t like it when people say, “I want to tell you something, but you know what I’m going to wait.” (Omg please don’t do that. Lol if you’re not going to tell me what’s on your mind right then and there, please don’t bring it up.)
  • My favorite foods are (Chicken Alfredo, Breakfast Food 🥞 (especially French toast), and Chicken strips.
  • My favorite dessert is Banana 🍌 pudding & Pound cake. (But only when I cook it. I have yet to taste anyone’s pound cake or banana pudding that’s better than mines.)
  • I carry “Accent Seasonings” in my purse. 😳 (Yeah…everybody can’t cook) lol. So if the food is unseasoned or doesn’t taste good I will reach into my purse 👜 and bring out my seasonings.🤣 just don’t judge me when I do…

  • I don’t mind you pulling out the red carpet to impress me, but I should tell you that I am a very simple woman. As long as you spend time with me and show me you care for me in small ways. I will be very happy.
  • My #1 love language is: Quality Time

Followed by:

  • Receiving Gifts (not expensive, just thoughtful) like you making a card for me or buying flowers (etc.)
  • Words of Affirmation
  • Physical touch…😏 (tehehehe..I’m so laughing my evil laugh right now)
  • Acts of Service

In that order.

If you want to know what your love language is, click below!

5 Love Languages Test

Okay, Back to the blog!

  • I love old school music 🎶!!! (Aretha Frankin, Maxwell, Jagged Edge, Lenny Williams, Marvin Gaye, Gerald Levert, Patti Labelle. (Etc.)
  • I have extremely cold feet, and I am so putting them on you when we get married.

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  • I can be very silly at times. But I’m still serious as well.
  • I forgive quickly, I don’t hold grudges. (Besides, The Holy Ghost won’t let me hold grudges anyway) but if you ever do anything to hurt my feelings just apologize and it will totally be over right then and there.

And last but not least,

  • Please never tell me you’ll do something and don’t do it. (That’s one of the things that will make me dislike you greatly.)

There’s so much more that I can tell you but…. I’ll wait until we finally meet. I just wanted you to know that I am so excited to know who you are, and I look forward to loving you everyday of my life.

Whether I meet you this year, next year, or have already passed by you (unknowingly), I want you to know that I will continue to be faithful to you and focus on The Lord until you get here. I cant wait to pursue Jesus with you! And you don’t have to worry about me loving someone else or giving my body to another man,

Baby, I am waiting for you.

I have literally been giving out church hugs to men for the last 4 years.

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Lol…

Love,

Your scaredy cat 🐱 yet excited wifey

❤️ Takyah Love❤️

Oh yeah, p.s.

Here’s a song I listen to whenever I think about you…I hope you like it! 🙃

“Is Your Man A Prince Or A King?” 

Hey ladies!

I know I haven’t written to you girls in a while! I’ve been finishing this newbook that is going to change your life! Ahhh!!! I’m so excited to spill the details!

However…since the bible says, be hasty for nothing! I won’t say a word! No matter how much I want to!! Simply know, it’s going to be the bomb💥!! As it get’s closer to the release date, I’ll discuss more of the details then!

Okay, let’s get to it!

“Is Your Man A Prince Or A King?” 

1. LIP SERVICE 🗣

⭐️NOTE: A Prince talks more than he moves and speaks more than he listens.  A prince is always telling you what you want to hear, instead of telling you what you need to hear!

And what you need to hear is, THE TRUTH!

Rarely, will he tell you the truth about him, his finances, his life or anything!

Matter of fact, you might’ve been dating this man for over 6 months now and you’re still unsure of EXACTLY WHO HE IS!?! Why??? Because he lies so much, that it’s hard to decipher between when he’s lying and when he’s actually telling the truth! At this point, you don’t know WHAT TO BELIEVE!? The first day you met him, was a Cop & now…. He’s a Power Ranger?

While on the flip side!..

⭐️NOTE: A King 👑 not only tells you the truth. But he doesn’t even speak, until he’s sure he can fulfill whatever promise he’s about to make to you. 

A King may not have all those “fancy” words and romantic gestures that a “prince charming” has. But when he grabs you by the hand, looks you in your eye and tells you, “Baby, I got you, I’m going to do it.” You can bet Alllll your money on it

Why?

Because a King is a man of order & priority.
He knows how it feels to be let down. And if he cares for you, the very last thing he would ever want to do is tell you something and not come through for you!!

                2. HE’S SO ROMANTIC 💏

A prince never minds this! He thrives off of it!

                              Why??

Because his number one☝🏽goal is to get you in bed sweetie! He uses charm & his romantic routine to try to get you going!

I wish a brother would come with some “Candles lit, Rose pettles 🥀 all on the floor, Doves 🕊 flying out of the cage at Dinner. Whip cream, Strawberries and Cherries🍒?!?” (And we ain’t married)

MANNNN If You Don’t Get This Stuff Outta’ Here! I’MA CALL MY DADDY!! And you Bets’ believe (Memphis slang) He gone’ have them horses and chariots waiting for you outside Playa! (yeah don’t play with me) lol…

Ladies c’mon!!!

A prince‘s whole world is revolved around pleasing himself!! He’s not into you! How many “other” women do you think he’s done those very same things with before you??

Being romantic is not buying you a Matching “bra and panties set” from Victoria’s SecretHe’s actually demeaning you and saying to himself (or to his boys), “I ain’t got to do much for her, Ima take her to Waffle House, Taco Bell or some like that, buy her some cute panties, a cheap movie and I got her.

Sis…Do you really think so low of yourself?!?
You are special and should not be treated like a midnight rendezvou!! A King 👑 will not take “sex” and dress it up like its “romance.” He will buy you flowers, pay for your food, he won’t wait around until your clothes start to have holes in them (before he starts to buy you some new ones), & if you fall on hard times he will make sure that your lights are paid for and that your cell phone is kept on…..

uhm….hello? 

Anyone there?? 

See, Honey, I’m talking about a King

I’m talking about a man that will make you a (home-made card) from scratch. And even though it looks like a 5 year old made the card. 😂😉 When you open the card & burst into laughter. That’s what makes his day! (He just loves seeing you smile)

A King will take his hand, rub your hair to put your hair back in place. Simply because you had a few pieces sticking up.

A King is a man who will tell you, “Baby you got lettuce in your teeth.” Instead of letting you walk around all day looking like this. ⤵️

                     Ladies pay attention!!! 👀

A King will never pretend with you! If he likes you, he’ll let you know. If he doesn’t he won’t waste your time.

                             Why??

Because…..That’s Just Who He Is! 

He’s been real with you from the beginning!

He’s never fronted with you!

He doesn’t have to put up this fake facade like he’s this “suavebillionaire GQ Man, 
neither does he ma
feel like you should be lucky to be with him! No ma’am. Instead, a King will look at you and thank God for you because he knows that, just like a good man is hard to come by,

So is a Good Woman…..


Okay ladies! 

That is all for now!

I pray this all helped you!

If you want me to make a “Part 2” to this blog! Comment below and let me know!

Until next time!!!

Love you!!! 

🌸Takyah Love

Getting Back Into The Dating Game! (Part 2)

Hey Ladies and Gents! I hope you all enjoyed part one to “Getting Back Into The Dating Game!” Don’t forget to comment & share the blog with your friends! Let’s get started!                                   

                             👠Ladies👠                        

                       4. Cover it Up! 

There was this time in my life, when I used to let it all hang out! I’m sure you girls remember that horrible selfie I posted in “Beauty from Within…” a couple of months ago.  
Honay,… honayy! I knew I had a nice curvy body & I would go parading 🎊 those lil hips of mine all over the place!!!

(That was before I really knew Jesus) 

As I constantly kept showing off “what my mama gave me.” I noticed something. The clothes I thought, would finally get a man to love me, only got men to lust after me. I was using my body as bait, yet never catching any fish! 
Man after man! They all wanted to sleep with me! They would pretend to be my friend long enough for them to spring the sex question up and when I told them “I’m practicing abstinence.” They would laugh at me as if I was lying.

The problem was, I was a good girl, trying to use bad girl tips. Which kept producing: bad girl results! One Sunday afternoon, (after I’d start attending church) the First Lady pulled me aside & said this:

 ⭐️⭐️⭐️”Wear your clothes tight enough to show that you are a woman, but loose enough to show that you are a lady.“⭐️⭐️⭐️ 

What she was telling me was this; there is nothing wrong with cute shirts, jeans, dresses or heels! However, when you go out, make sure you dress to represent our daddy! (God). It’s still possible to dress fashionably, without looking like you don’t have class.  

For instance , all of these outfits are “No Go’s!” 

 Wearing outfits like this ⬆️ will not only misrepresent God; in addition they will also make you appear as if you’re a bedroom woman
I’ve heard many women complain about how all the good men look over them & how they only attract men who disrespect them.(that used to be my complaint as well)

But if we don’t respect ourselves, who will? 

Sis, you cannot demand from others what you don’t give to yourself! In fact I guarantee! If you start respecting yourself a little bit more & covering up all those goodies, men will have no problem respecting you for the princess you are
                             Remember! 
Men see who you are longgg before they hear who you are; so don’t let what they see, detour them away from the beautiful person you are on the inside.

 ⭐️Note: How you treat yourself is how you train others to treat you. 

 ⭐️Note: If you need a little help on what to wear for your next date. How’s about trying something like this? ⬇️ Cute! Yet, it shows you have respect for yourself! 😘                       

                     👠Ladies and GENTS👔                 

                  5. Please Include God!!!

 I know! I know guys! This should be number 1 on the dating tips!! However, I wasn’t writing the blog in chronological order, so cut me some slack!! Okay??

 *Back to the Blog!!*

 The number 1 reason in dating is to “INCLUDE GOD!”

                Why is this the most important? 

Well….I’ll tell you! Although there’s soo many reasons why you should include God when dating, for the sake of time I’ll just list two…

  1. God knows the heart of people.
  2. God sees the big picture.

As humans we sometimes overlook the people God wants to place in our life & think too highly of the people he’s trying to take out of our life…For instance, we’ll look at a persons outer appearance and think to ourselves: “Oh yeah, God this is the one!” 

Yet, when God tells us “No that’s not who I have for you.” We fuss! We fight! We even go against his will; arguing our case with “Limited vision.”As if we really know better than God! 

Meanwhile, God is looking at their heart and saying, “If you marry them, they’re going to hurt you, they’re going to belittle you, they’re going to make you depend on them, rather than me. He or she may be good looking but they’re not right for you! I don’t want you to marry them because instead of helping you walk into your purpose, they will doubt what I’ve placed in you! They won’t love you the way I want you to be loved. Trust me! I know whats best for you! You are mine! And I would rather not give you (what you think you want) & have you angry with me now; Than to give them to you and listen to you cry later.” 

I think it’s time for a good story…

 A little over 2 years ago, there was this man of God I was talking to. He was involved in ministry heavily. He was handsome and very funny! We talked several times on the phone & overall he seemed to be a really great guy! One day as our conversation ended,
The Holy Spirit said… “NO.”

Around that time, I was wondering should I start a relationship with him. So, I knew this was God giving me my answer. Although, I didn’t quite understand why God would say NO to him; (seeing how much he talked about God & preached him) still, trusting God, I let him go…

I never called him or answered any of his texts from that moment on. However, a couple of months later, I came to understand why. 
It was a “Summers Night“, and I’d just walked out of my prayer closet from spending time with The LORD! I was so filled up with joy to the point where, I wanted to do something nice for My Heavenly Father!  
As a result, I said to myself, I’m going to go to the store to make a nice Fathers Card for Jesus & I’ll show it to him in our next prayer time together! 

I get in the car and though it’s pretty late (some time after 12 midnight). I still felt the urge to go. So here I am, at the store, smiling as I check off my to do list; 

when all of a sudden I hear a familiar voice coming from the register beside me…

I turn my head to the left to see who it was and….

                          !!!BEHOLD!!!

(Ya’ll know I had to get dramatic right there) 😂 

Any-way..

                          !!!BEHOLD!!!

The man who “GOD said No to” and some woman dressed like a hooker in this same store with me, at almost 1 in the morning!
He looked at me with embarrassment. 
I didn’t say anything. (That would’ve been out of place) Besides, the look on his face said more than enough for the situation. I simply checked out, waved at him & kept going…🚶🏽‍♀️

Now, I have no clue as to why they were out so lateor for that matter why she was half naked! Matter of fact, that’s none of my business that’s God’s.

Nonetheless, I had to share that story with you to make this point…

Sometimes when God tells us “NO.” about someone; we feel like he’s trying to keep this “good” gift from us! But that’s simply not true! God’s no’s are for our protection! Remember Adam and Eve?!? In their situation, the enemy convinced “Eve”that God was withholding something good from her but he wasn’t! He was protecting her!

Guys, if God is telling you to let someone go; do it! Learn from my story above! Trust me! God knows what’s best for you! After all, he did make you! So, I’m pretty sure God knows what you want & don’t wantHe’s not going to make you marry someone who you’re not attracted to or someone you don’t like! He just wants to see if we trust him enough to let go of what we can see to obtain what we can’t see

⭐️Note for the GENTS: You cant get Esther until you let go of Vashti… 

⭐️Note for the Ladies: You can’t get Boaz until Mahlon dies… (figuratively speaking* let any relationship that God has not approved of die!) 


                   👠Ladies and GENTS👔

  6. Believe Their Actions, Not Their Words..

When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.”
                                                         -Maya Angelou

The thing I never quite understood; is why people hang onto relationships that are clearly a waste of time. When my old friends would come to me for advice concerning their issues, I would give them the complete truth. Yet, even after all that “truth” they would still go back to that time wasting relationship & then keep calling me month after month with the same problem
Now I’m no relationship guru! But I do believe in “SIGNS” and “COMMON SENSE.
If someone is giving you the mouth, 🗣

  • You’re important to me.
  • I value you.
  • Nobody else makes me feel like you do. 
  • I want to be with you. 

Yet, their actions are completely different. 

                       ✂️CUT IT OFF✂️

Example: Tyler keeps telling Briana that he hates when she ignores him. Every time they get on the phone to talk, she talks to everyone around her, leaves him on hold (while she does a million other things) & after he’s waited on hold for her; she then hangs up & texts him,”Call Ya Later.” But her call back later usually means 2-3 days later… 

If Tyler was my friend?? Why would I advise him to hold onto that? If he’s communicated this problem to her more than a few times & yet she continues to do this..
She’s making things very clear to him! She is either; Atoo busy for a relationship or Bnot interested in having a relationship with him. 

⭐️Note: Never put more into a relationship than the other person is putting.

⭐️Note: “Unlimited chances” are for (married people) not for someone you just met two weeks ago. 

Another Example

This one is for my Ladies because I see so many women in this situation constantly!!

I know at times you think you can (work) your way into a mans heart by doing “good deeds” but you cant! 
All those texts, calls, checking up on him, cooking meals, washing clothes & trying to get him to see you, is pretty much for nothing. 
In reality this man is not even looking at you as a potential wife. He’s looking at you as a potential second mom…

Sweetheart, no matter how many “nice” things you do for a man; You cannot force your way into his life. If he’s not interested, he’s just not interested! You have to be okay with that! Everyone is not going to like you! And you’re not going to like everybody! 

So, stop overworking yourself to get into a position that doesn’t belong to youThe last thing you need, is a broken heart because you’ve put in years of work; trying to open the eyes of the wrong Adam

⭐️ Note: If someone is showing you they’re not into you. Believe what they’re showing you. Don’t take them ignoring you as some kind of cute “playing hard to get game.” (They actually may not like you.)

Well… there you have it Ladies and GENTS! 

Now…I know Part two to “Getting Back Into the Dating Game.” May not have been your favorite blog of mine, you probably even got cut a little bit…😬 lol…

However, I’ve got to tell y’all the truth! I’m not going to sugar coat these “bad courtships” & tell you, “just go with the flow!” Or “give it some more time.” (After many months have passed) Uhmm…No honey! I want what’s best for you! 

I am tired of men & women not getting the agape & mature love they deserve! I believe in love; & although I’ve never been in love, I think there’s someone out there for everyone! 

I have hopes of walking down the aisle one day  & marrying who God has for me.! You too should have those same hopes! Don’t give up! God already knows how your life is going to play out! 

All you have to do is stay in his will!

Once again, it has been fun talking to you guys!! You know I love y’all so much!

I pray this blog helped you!

Till next time! 

– 💕Takyah Love 💕 

Three Ways to Know if a Man is “Heaven” sent or “Hell” sent.

Its amazing to see and hear some of the explanations that women give just to hold onto a man. Even when all the signs are telling you he’s not the one. I’ve counseled women, went into debates (not purposely) and even had to slap a few of my “Christian Sistas” back into reality when it came to dating a man!

Through their personal experiences I have witnessed, “bad break-ups, Love stories that quickly went sour, and the situations I grieve the most…My Sista’s who fall into sin because this time the devil came talking the bible and wearing a church suit.. So, before you get all “lovey dovey and “I’s fina get married now!”  I want to share with you, Three Ways to Know if a Man isHeaven” sent or“HELL” sent!

1. Hell sent: “Confusion”

Confusion: chaos; lack of clearness; a disturbed mental state.

Any relationship that confuses you is not of God! One of the many promises that we, as children of God, have a right to obtain is peace! So, why in Heaven,…. would “GOD“(our loving daddy) send us a mate who is just downright confusing???

Let me show you what I mean

  • His mood is ALWAYS changing: *meaning he’s very unstable and incapable of running a family.
  • You feel no peace when you’re with him
  • He’s confuses you about what he wants in a relationship: *one day he’s speaking marriage and the next, he pretends as if he doesn’t even know you.
  •  You break up and make-up: *although we understand that relationships are (not perfect) and disagreements will happen; however they should not occur on a daily basis.
  • He tells you he’s “waiting on God”: *Yet, he wishes to drag you along for years; as he waits on”Gods Big Answer” Which for a lack of better terms, is simply (a man afraid of any real commitment)

Now, I don’t know about you…but Chile’…That is just “toomuch confusion for me!

“Ain’t Nobody Got time fo’ dat!”

⭐️The bible says in •1 Corinthians 14:33“God is not the author of confusion but of peace.”  And ladies…Instead of ‘jumping the gun‘ and allowing (temporary emotions) to cloud your judgement. How about nexttime *practice patience!* and give your new found love,” time to reveal his true character…

Okay! Let’s move on!

2. Hell sent: “Apples and Oranges”(THE RELATIONSHIP DOES NOT FLOW!)

Flow: moving in or as in a stream; like “flowing water”; something that proceeds smoothly.

I remember last Autumn; sitting in one of my favorite places to eat! Gus’s fried chicken! Yummy!!! 🙂

I was cordially invited over the phone to have lunch with a (guy) friend of mine.

So, here we are, having a casual lunch, catching up on whats been going on in our lives, and all of a sudden I hear him say…

“Takyah, I think you’re my wife.” 

Inside my head I scream,

“DARN YOU GUS’S FRIED CHICKEN!!”

😂😜(I guess that’s what I get for loving food so much!)😜😂

Now, onto a more serious note.  

After a few moments of gathering my thoughts. What exactly? would I say to this man to convince him that , I am NOT his wife! Still to this day I can’t figure out how he came to that conclusion…🤔

For one thing…..

We have absolutely NOTHING in common…I am apple’s🍎 and he is oranges🍊

Let me show you a few examples of what I mean:

My Personality:

  • laid back, (mostly quiet)
  • hate arguments (I always want things to go smoothly)
  • funny (I love having a good time)
  • romantic (but I’m saving all of those “romantic” ideas for hubby)
  • giving (I don’t know, what it is, but I just love giving to people!)
  • I lovemusic (especially old school)
  • I enjoy cooking
  • I love deep conversations (especially about God)
  • and I lovereading books

Now let me show you his personality…

*But before I do this, please know; “I am trying to be as honest as I can without hurting any feelings, but for the sake of my ladies, I will not sugar coat anything! They will get thewholetruth!  AND NOTHING BUT THE TRUTH!!  

(Now back to the comparison chart) LOL…

His Personality:

  • extremely hyper
  • He loved talking (but it was never deep)
  • He wasn’t romantic (AT ALL!!!)

 Like do you see this picture below?? “Chile’ pleaseee(in my southern accentthat wouldn’t happen in a million years!

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Even when I cooked for him, as a friendly gesture, he never thought to say “thank you” “give flowers” or anything along that nature! He Just CameAte. Burped and left. Leaving me as a woman feeling unappreciated.

Not only that; but can you believe as we were eating, this man pulls out his phone and begins to talk…and it wasn’t your (“Hey, I’m busy can you call me back?”) type of conversation… Oh no, that’s understandable.  

It was one of those…

 (“MAN WHAT???!! I CAN’T BELIEVE IT! DIDN’T I TELL YOU THEY WAS GONE LOSE THE GAME!) kind of conversations….

I believe had I not pulled the “I’m sleepy routine” we would still be at dinner now.

  So, do you see what I’m saying?

If the relationship doesn’t flow, let him go! 

Point. Blank.Simple.

Okay….

Last but most certainly not least!  This sign all by itself will let you know, how you as single woman can know 100% that this man did not come from God…

3. Hell sent: Compromising to be with him

Compromise: to make a dishonorable or shameful concession; a compromise of ones integrity.

  • “Sex doesn’t sound too bad. right? I mean, after all we have grace.”
  • C’mon girl! You know we gonna’ get married! So, don’t try to be all holy on me! “Why you tryna’ hold out?”

One thing that, we as “single women” must always be prayerful and watchful for is wolves in sheep’s clothing!  

Ladies… If you pay attention and take off the blinders (your emotions and hopes) It usually doesn’t take long to spot these kind of men…especially when you have discernment. Men who are only after one thing, can very well disguise themselves to look like they’re everything you’ve ever wanted.  They’re extremely charming, suave, funny and for some ODD reason these kinds of men always leave your mind wondering…

but the devil is a liar!  

Sista’, you better get to’ rebuking your mind and praying for discernment! Before you be looking like the girl in this picture…

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  • 1. He asks you things like “what turns you on physically?”  (Such as: kissing, rubbing your neck (etc.)
  • 2. He’s always commenting about how “sexy” you look (How big your butt is or how wide your hips are) He never compliments your inner qualities. It’s always on the outside.
  • 3. He blurts out things like: “Girl if you was my wife, I would have you all over the place!” (Which by the way ladies, is not a compliment but is very inappropriate. (If you’re not married.) For one thing you’re not his wife and secondly he should not be looking at you in that manner!

⭐️Matthew 5:28 lets us know that “anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”

  •   4. He texts you,”What are you wearing right now?” (The next time he texts you something like that, tell him you got on the full armour of God! I bet you that devil will stop texting then.)
  •   5.He never asks you out on dates

Although, I hate to rain on your parade, I have to share with you, “Men are natural investors by nature. So, if he’s not pursuing you, by investing any money or time into the relationship,  Just know you’re not the one he wants!

⭐️Note: Men who want more, do more! And. NO! Ma’am! Every single date WILL NOT be in secret!

So, there you go LADIES….and GENTS (who came out of curiosity!)

I pray that my blog helped you!

Feel free to comment and also share any tips that you might have yourself on, “How to spot HELL sent relationships!”

Love you all!!!!
💋Takyah Love