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Takyah Love is a young but powerful woman of God who currently resides in Memphis, TN. She has a passion for spreading the gospel of Jesus Christ, traveling and equipping women to make the most of every area in their lives. By using the wisdom of God along with her studies; She provides a positive and deeper insight to relationships and how they work. Follow her on instagram @_takyahlove or Facebook: Takyah Love
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Marrying Outside of God’s Will..

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Marriage is a beautiful thing…

It’s God ordained,

Filled with purpose,

& a love like no other.

If we ask The Lord, I believe He will help us when it comes to finding our mate, or show us who He has in mind that will best suit the journey ahead.

But

What happens?

If God shows you

the one you’re about to marry,

is not “The one”…

Do you risk the embarrassment of calling off the wedding? Or do you just suck it up and make the biggest mistake of your life…

Well…

5 years ago,

that was me.

Engaged. 💍

Lost.

Confused.

And about to make a HUGE mistake.

In today’s blog, “Marrying Outside of God’s Will.” I want to share my story with you, and in doing so, I pray it helps you with knowing who “The One” is, & who “The One” isn’t.

✨ Before we get started, I just want to say this, “If you are disobedient and set on doing things Your Way and not The Fathers, you may want to exit right now, as you will probably not like this blog. ✨

As I have said from day one, since: “Three Ways to Know if A Man is Heaven Sent or Hell Sent.” I tell the truth, the whole truth and Nothing but the truth!

Now back to the blog!

1. 😓 CONFUSION 😓

The number one sign we all know that God is not in a thing, is the lack of His Presence and Peace.

When God wants something for you, His Peace will follow it, and when He doesn’t want something for you; He will not breathe on it, nor will He give you peace about it.

No matter how many times you beg or ask Him to change his mind; when it comes to His Will being done in the earth, I have known The Lord to be VERY unyielding…

Trust me on this sis/bro…

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Story Time:

In December of 2013, my first engagement ring was given to me.

The man that gave it to me didn’t propose, he didn’t get down on one knee, or anything. We simply googled wedding rings one night, ordered two rings and decided; We’re going to get married. Our plan was to elope and have a real wedding later.

Proverbs 19:21– We may make a lot of plans, but the LORD will do what He has decided. 

I am not sure what happened or what was attached to that engagement ring, but as soon as I put it on, it felt as if the spirit of The Lord left me.

Although His word says,

Deuteronomy 31:6– He will never leave us nor forsake us;

Still, whenever we discussed marriage, or I tried to wear my engagement ring, it felt as if The Lord did leave.

One time, I was so vexed in my spirit from wearing it, that I took it off & decided not to wear it until the day we got married. (Yes, I was very foolish back then.) Without even getting all deep & spiritual;

 in the natural,

 I knew this relationship was not God’s best for me! One day we were happy, the next we were upset. Not to mention his insecurities drove me completely up a wall!

Yet, with all his insecurities, anger issues, drug abuse, cheating, manipulative ways & everything else The Lord kept revealing to me ON PURPOSE, (so I could run in the opposite direction); I still proceeded with the wedding.

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Two months after being given the ring, we went to meet with The Pastor who was going to marry us. He said if he counseled us for a few hours, we could get our marriage license at a discounted price.

As we sat down to talk with him about basic marital things, it felt as if a spirit of darkness literally came in the room and sat on my head. I couldn’t think straight, I could barely hear what they were saying, and I couldn’t even answer the Pastors questions.

It felt like I was having an out of body experience, almost as if I wasn’t even there. When the Pastor asked me if I was okay, I smiled, but deep down inside, I knew This was not God’s will for my life.

After the meeting, my groom to be set the date for us to be married. Strangely, the Day we picked to get married, fell on April Fools Day…

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I know..

I know..

Y’all don’t even have to say anything..🤦🏽‍♀️

Even in that, the Lord was showing me, “Your going to be a fool if you get married to this man.”

What makes it even more sad, was the fact I wasn’t even in love with this man. I was simply comfortable and had become used to the routine of being with him.

Since I was not heeding The Lords direction for my life,

The Lord turned things up a notch🔥…

Which brings me to my next point.

2. ⚠️ WARNINGS ⚠️

Warning: a statement or event that indicates a possible or impending danger, problem, or other unpleasant situation.

Although I had many warnings prior to these, I’m listing these because they were the ones I could never forget.

1st Warning ⚠️

I remember it just like it was yesterday. I had driven over to my fiancé’s house and told him I would wait there for him until he got off work so we could spend a little time together. He told me he’d left a key for me under the mat so I could let myself in.

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I went into the kitchen and began washing dishes. After about 10 minutes I heard a noise. Since no one was in the house with me, I shrugged it off as nothing.

A few moments later, when I looked up from washing the dishes, standing in the kitchen window was a dark figure with long teeth and red eyes. It stood on the other side of the window laughing at me.

I dropped the last plate in the sink and took off running with tears flowing down my eyes. I ran down the hallway into his bedroom and locked the door, (as if that could protect me from a spirit). After I locked the door, I began to pray. It seemed as if it took hours of me crying and praying before the presence of that Demonic spirit finally left.

2nd Warning ⚠️

The second warning was on one of our famous movie nights. On these nights, we would cuddle, talk and find a funny movie to watch.

On this particular night, I remember him running his fingers through my hair. Although I usually looked away & blushed when he did this; this time however, I didn’t. I stared back into his eyes, and as I did, his whole face changed before me.

The same demonic spirit I’d seen weeks prior, was literally the face I was staring at as I looked at my fiance. After seeing this I scooted ALLL the way to the other side of the bed. When he asked me what was wrong? I told him what I saw. He smiled, assured me it was nothing and we continued to watch TV.

3rd Warning ⚠️

This actually was the last night I slept over at his house. I believe this was the Final Warning from God, and it scared the living day out of me.

We fell asleep after watching Martin and while I slept, I was given a dream from an angel of The Lord.

The Dream:

I was standing inside of this big mansion, it was very beautiful, but it was so broken on the inside, the walls were torn down, the curtains were ripped, and there were even trophies that had my name on them lying on the ground. The trophies were cracked and shattered.

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In the dream, as I looked around this gloomy mansion, my fiancé appeared before me and his skin began to change, He became frail, thin, and boils started to cover his entire body. Suddenly, worms appeared and began to eat up his flesh until he became a skeleton. As he stretched out his hand toward me, calling my name,

I backed away…

A few feet behind my fiance was a figure standing in the hallway. When I looked closer, it was the same demon I had seen in his house while I was washing dishes! Except this time he wasn’t a shadow; he was in full form.  I could see his body, his long fingers and every detail of his face. He was about 10 feet tall!

& just like all the other times,

He stood there…

pointing and laughing at me.

Seeing this, I took off running🏃🏽‍♀️out of this mansion! Other People were running too! But, they were running in the opposite direction. I didn’t understand it.

Then as I was running, suddenly, three tornadoes 🌪 appeared from out of Heaven. The wind was so strong, I tried to hold onto a pole. All throughout this dream there was a red hat that was on my head, but it kept falling off. It fell off three times but the third time, when I tried to reach out and place it back on my head, I couldn’t! The wind whiffed it away.

Immediately, after the red hat flew away, the ground beneath my feet opened up revealing a fire filled pit.

I looked up to The Heavens and screamed “God why?” “Why are you doing this to me?” (Now, why I shouted that to the top of my lungs? I have no clue because, God wasn’t doing anything to me. My disobedience was causing these things to happen. The Lord was simply showing me the outcome of what being disobedient could cost me in the end.)

*Back to the blog*

As I screamed to the Lord, my fingers slipped from the pole I was holding on to, and I fell into this Fiery 🔥 Pit…

I screamed so loud when I woke up from that dream!

When I woke up, there was an angel standing on my side of the bed. And he said,

“Warning comes before Destruction.”

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His hand was on my right arm and when he removed his hand, a glowing handprint was left on my arm. It took a few minutes before the print disappeared.

After the angel left, I turned over to see my fiancé knocked out cold.

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I grabbed my bag, my clothes, I didn’t even put my shoes on! I got in my car and left his house at 5 am that morning! I did not speak with him for a whole 2 weeks afterward. I didn’t tell him why or anything. I was too shook up and scared to even think about that dream.

Buttttt…..

even after ALL OF THAT...

I still was a fool y’all… 🤦🏽‍♀️😂

Instead of leaving the situation like The Lord wanted me to, I kept trying to fix it. I got a whole list together of things we had to stop doing in order for The Lord to bless our union.

By this time,

 I’m pretty sure The Lord wanted to throw a thunderbolt at me, because I was not getting it!

Even with all the confusion, the darkness and the horrible dreams I had, I still tried to fix it! So the Lord was like, “Okay then…Bet! I got something for your disobedient tail!”

Then…these began to happen….

3. WORDS OF CONFIRMATION 🗣

🗣 1st Word:

I was on the phone one night with my friend who was being trained for ministry at the time. (He’s a minister now.) Anywho, as we were on the phone talking about everything that was going on in this relationship, he simply said,

“Takyah that is not who God has for you.”

I thought 💭 Mhmm.. okay. Since he liked me at the time, I completely ignored him and thought his word of confirmation was biased to his own intentions for me.

🗣 2nd Word:

After hearing what my friend said I scheduled a meeting with my First Lady to talk about this man. I wanted her to specifically tell me this was not who God had for me.

It’s like I kept looking for ways to justify this relationship; even though I knew God wanted me out of it. I wanted a sign to confirm it. Sadly, God’s voice was not enough for me back then.

Although she didn’t tell me he wasn’t my spouse, she did however, give me a simple instruction to follow. She said, “Takyah, stop having sex with him and during this time, ask the Lord to reveal to you who he really is.”

She said, “I see where you have tried to leave him before and right when you were done with the relationship he would have sex with you or manipulate you & you would stay.” “Once you stop being intimate with him, and ask The Lord to reveal to you who he is, I believe you’re going to have the answer you seek.”

Once I did what she said, I definitely noticed a difference. For the first time, I’d began to see him for who he truly was, (not who I wanted him to be) & let’s just say, (now that the blinders were starting to come off), I did not like who I saw.

However… because of the soul tie we already formed from sex, and being emotionally connected for over 2 1/2 years, (we were friends for 2 years before we started dating) still, it wasn’t enough to make me leave.

But the next Word of Confirmation was…

🗣 3rd Word:

It was a nice Spring night. I cuddled up in my bed with Napoleon 🐶, got me a glass of crisp cranberry juice & turned my TV to TBN. I prayed to the Lord, worshipped, and I felt so good! 😊

Around 3 a.m. The Holy Spirit shook me awoke. He told me to turn my tv up, so I did.

Nothing could have prepared me for what I was about to hear.

Right when I turned my TV up this preacher who was preaching, paused from His Message, and began to prophesy,

He said,

“I don’t know who you are, but you’re a young lady, you’re in a relationship with a boy, that’s right! He’s not even a man! He was sent by Satan to destroy you, destroy your ministry, and destroy your destiny! The Lord said, if you continue to get married to this man and stay in that mess, in 6 months, you will not even recognize yourself.” “And not only will you not be able to recognize yourself, but in a years timing you will get a divorce.” He continued, “As a matter of fact, you’re watching me on TV right now. I know I don’t know you, but the Lord said, Obey Him and watch what He’ll do in your life.”

After he was done with that brief word, he went back to preaching his message as if what he’d said WAS NO BIG DEAL, meanwhile I’m in shock with my mouth glued to my chest.

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That, Ladies and gentleman, was the last nail in the coffin..

Ever since I was a child, I told myself, I am only getting married once. So, it had to be to the right person! I made up my mind that when I got married, I would not get a divorce! The Lord knew I hated divorce, and for a man I don’t even know to prophesy that to me personally through the TV,

Y’all, I was messed up.😳

When I gathered myself, I said, “Okay Lord, I’ll obey.”

One Of The Hardest Days of My Life

The next evening I drove to my fiance’s house, I cooked dinner for him as I had done many times before and once both of us were done eating, his parents came and joined us.

After we finished eating, I opened my mouth & it just came out,

“I cannot marry your son.”

His father’s face went sour, and his mother looked confused. When they questioned “Why?” I told them, “The Lord said If I marry him I will be out of His Will.” His mother jumped up from the table and shook her head, “You can marry whoever you want, God gives us free will!”

I told her, “Although, that may be true for some people, I don’t think The Lord has given me that option.” His Father butted in with his own comments, even mumbling under his breath that I was crazy.

After everyone calmed down a bit, they said,

“Well, we cannot stop you.”

“Do what you think is best.”

I began to cry and so did my fiance. I went into my purse, pulled out my engagement ring and placed it in my fiance’s hand.

I apologized to them all, and I left…

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When I tell y’all that was the hardest thing ever!!!

I was soo scared, I wondered, What are they going to think of me? What will his family & friends say about me? Here we are about to get married, and a month before our Wedding, I am leaving the relationship completely.

This is Crazy…

However, once the Lord gave me the strength I needed to finally leave that toxic relationship, I haven’t looked back since.

 And the peace that followed obeying God??

Oh my gosh!!!

It was incomparable to anything I’d ever felt before!

I could feel the presence of The Lord stronger than ever and His JOY overtook me. I was happy, smiling again, glowing & felt as if a weight had literally been taken off my shoulders.

My relationship with The Lord was crazy dope! After I got rid of the relationship that was draining me, I began experiencing The Lord’s glory like never before.

Me and “Jesus Chroist!!” literally became two peas in a pod.

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Although, I know this blog is kind of long, I must give you one more point…

Then I’ll be done…

4. KNOWING 😔

The thing about dating someone outside of God’s will is this:

You Already Know It..

You know because you have no peace, you know because you’re confused, you know because you feel uneasy when you get around them,

It’s just a knowing in your spirit.

Yet, because of fear you stay with this person anyway…

Whether your fear is stemmed from:

  • hating change (so you stay)
  • being scared of the outcome if you leave
  • hating to start over (because you’ve invested so much into this)
  • wondering what people would say if you left
  • or something else (bleh, blah. (etc.)

Whatever it is, it’s still FEAR.

I am here to tell you that neither of those fears are bigger than The LORD…

Y’all, I can go on and on with this, but I am done..

I believe I have said everything The Lord wants me to say.

Just know sis/bro that whatever you have to give up for the Lord’s will to be done,

Will be multiplied and given back to you a 100x better than what you gave up.

The months, years, or even decades you have wasted on the wrong person will be restored.

I promise you.

God is not a man that he must lie.

And one more thing…

I promise this is the last thing y’all! 😂

If God gives you someone that is beautiful on the inside as well as the out, someone who prays for you, loves you unconditionally, serves you, caters to you, cherishes you, and cares for you, even when you’re at your worst.

Don’t be stupid.

If you have God’s stamp of approval, His peace, your relationship is blooming, the both of you are growing, and you’re stronger together than you ever were being by yourself.

Don’t mess it up…

*God ordained covenants* are so rare these days, because many people settle in the wilderness before they make it to the promised land..

With that being said,

If you’ve made it to the promised land and you’re with the one who makes your soul jump

and The Lord is in it👀 …

Stay right There sis/bro…

Stay right there…

Love,

Takyah Love

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Purity Check: That’s Not What You want…

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Hey ladies!

& gents who always sneak in! 👀

lol..

Tonight’s blog will be very short.

This blog is dedicated to everyone who’s walking in purity.

I pray that by reading this I can help encourage you to keep on keeping on! ☺️

I don’t know about y’all..

but lately…

I have been going through…😓

Within the past few days, I literally have been burning in my stomach and craving sex! So much so, to where ignoring my urges have literally brought me to tears.

I don’t know if it’s because I’ve been praying for my husband lately, (and that’s causing me to think about him more), or if it’s just my body naturally getting tired of waiting.

But,

whatever it is..

I AM ON THE EDGE!!!

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Yesterday,

January 24, 2019; was such a long day.

Although, it was a good day, it was still long.

When I got home from work, I snatched my clothes off, ran me a hot bubble bath 🛁 & slid into the bathtub.

Sitting, soaking, & enjoying my relaxation. I started to think.

I couldn’t believe how long it’s been since I’ve even kissed a man..

March, 2019 will start my 6th year of purity…

(Although, I celebrate it every year on May 31st, I was actually walking in purity a few months before I actually dedicated my body to God.)

Anywho,…

Thinking of this,

I became weary…

As I pondered on my husband..

  • Where we would meet?
  • Who is he?
  • How does he look?
  • What’s his favorite food?

(Blah-blah)

Slowly, my mind began to shift from pure and curious, to nasty and naughty. Knowing I could not go there, I jumped out of the tub and began to cast those thoughts down.

Except I forgot one thing..

I had to dry myself off and put lotion on..

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Oh Lord Jesus…

Please…

Just let him come through the window right now, I thought.

The thoughts to please my flesh came right back! Except this time, they were much stronger!

As I contemplated doing something I know I’ve been delivered from; I exclaimed to myself, “No Takyah! You can’t do that!” I found the nearest piece of clothing, threw it on, and hopped into bed.

 I spoke in tongues for a few minutes..

For a moment, I seemed to be okay.

But..

just when I thought it was over,

💥 Boom!💥

A rush of adrenaline, ungodly thoughts and urges hit me all at once.

As I became weak, my hands started to go where I did not want them to go, but before I could do anything,

The Lord called my name…

“Takyah.”

I paused for a few seconds and became still. I wanted to ignore Him, go do my thang, and then come back and repent.

Although I was still..

I did not respond.

As I contemplated on what I should do, He called my name again.

“Takyah.”

This time more firm.

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I peaked my head from under the covers.

“Yes Lord?” 😔

I was expecting him to say something like, Now you know better than that. But He didn’t.

He simply said,

“That is not what you want.”

Pondering what He meant by that, I sat up in my bed. And said, “What Lord?”

And He said it again,

“That is not what you want daughter.”

“What you want, is a husband.”

Knowing what He said was so true. I immediately burst into tears😭!

As I was crying, the Lord comforted me and told me that my husband would be here very soon. He then told me to go to sleep.

I am not sure if He put me to sleep or what, (because He has put me to sleep in the past) However, less than a minute later, I was knocked out cold. (It was only 8pm)

So when I woke up today,

I had a revelation of what God meant when He said, “That’s not what you want.”

And this is what I got from it,

Many times, we let our bodies, our minds, our urges, our impatience to wait on God, and everything else control us and force us into doing something we really don’t want to do.

Whether it be, calling an ex, watching pornography, masturbating or all of the above.

I am here to tell you that

THAT

is not what you want..

It’s deeper than that.

You think you want to have sex with your ex, but what you really want is to be loved.

But because you don’t believe that God will give you someone who will truly love you, you settle and keep going back to a toxic relationship.

You think you want to watch pornography, but what you really want is true intimacy.

But because you doubt you’ll ever have that with someone, you create false intimacy and imaginations in your heart and settle for lust & loneliness.

You think you want to masturbate (preaching to myself now), but what you really want, is to feel cherished and safe.

But because you’ve been waiting for sooo longg.. you think God has forgotten about you and instead of waiting for your wedding night (which will be so much more mind blowing), you settle for false fantasies and self gratification that only lasts a few seconds.

Y’all…

Just

Don’t

Do

It!

Don’t bend to your flesh,

Don’t bow to your urges

I know it is EXTREMELY HARD at times not to do…

But I am here with you…

So, tonight I want you to check your heart, ask The Lord to help you with any urges you may have.

He knows we live in a fleshly body, He knows how difficult living the “pure life” can be, he is not far from our human experiences. However, He conquered it all so we could walk in victory just like He did..

You don’t have to pick up the phone and call that toxic person…

You don’t have to go to that website and get bound to pornography again..

Neither do you have to let your hands touch places they shouldn’t…

Y’all it is HARDDDDDD!!! 😭😭😭

But I promise I am here..

And we are in this thing together…

Don’t settle tonight.

or ever in life.

Because once you do,

You’ll realize…

That’s not what you really want..

Love,

🌸 Takyah 🌸

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The Will Of God…

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If God had a plan for your life would you do it?

Or would you keep walking down your own path?

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Although, looking at the question, many people would say, “Of course I’ll do the Will of God!” However, so many times in life, when it comes to choosing His Will and trusting His plans over our own, it’s much easier said than done.

In today’s blog, I am going to share with you “3 lessons” I have learned about the Will of God. I pray that the stories & lessons I am about to share with you, give you a sense of purpose and the courage you need to walk into your destiny.

1. The Will of God is Not The will of “The people.”

⭐️Galatians 1:10 – Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.

A little while ago, the Lord told me to leave a place and not look back. He told me my time was up and even directed my steps on where to go next. “His peace,” along with several confirmations followed the instructions I was given.

However, a few months later, people began to tell me, “I was Out of the will of God.” Listening to people, my peace began to be disturbed, and I was thrown into what felt like a big ball of confusion.

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Wanting so badly to be in (What people told me was the will of God for my life) I left where He’d placed me, and went back to where The Lord specifically told me not to go back to.

Now, there is nothing wrong with the place I left or the people there, I learned soooo much from them and they are amazing mentors!

However, much like Elijah, the season was up for me to stay there.

1 Kings 17: 2-9 – God then told Elijah, “Get out of here, and fast. Head east and hide out at the Kerith Ravine on the other side of the Jordan River. You can drink fresh water from the brook; I’ve ordered the ravens to feed you.”
Elijah obeyed God’s orders. He went and camped in the Kerith canyon on the other side of the Jordan. And sure enough, ravens brought him his meals, both breakfast and supper, and he drank from the brook.
Eventually the brook dried up because of the drought. Then God spoke to him: “Get up and go to Zarephath in Sidon and live there. I’ve instructed a woman who lives there, a widow, to feed you.”

Often times, we as people try to make the old instructions God gave us, fit for the new season. But, it doesn’t work that way.

If Elijah would’ve went back to the brook, he would’ve been hungry, out of the will of God and eventually, (from his disobedience & not moving when God said move) he would’ve died. God’s provision for Elijah was no longer at the Kerith Ravine, but was now in Zaraphath with the widow woman.

⭐️Note: Don’t hold onto anything or any place the Lord is telling you to let go of, or move from.

When I went back to the old place, I had no joy, no peace, I was disturbed in my spirit, and I cried for months on end. If this was truly God, why was obeying Him so painful? Why didn’t I have His peace anymore?

But because “people told me” that was God’s will for my life, I fooled myself into thinking the same thing, and I stayed. By that one act of disobedience, I suffered and remained stagnant for almost 2 years.

Now, many months later, (18 months to be exact).

I took a trip to GHANA.

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And on this trip,

The Lord gave me instructions on what I needed to do for my life to get back in His will.

And guess what y ‘all?

I am back where The Lord put me years ago! Although my first emotion was anger, because I felt I’d just wasted 18 months of my life that I can never get back! Nonetheless, I do know that The Lord is a redeemer of lost time.

Joel 2:25 – I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten

The lesson in this first story, is to listen to God. Regardless of what anyone say’s, and regardless of how any one feels.

It doesn’t matter if its your career, your church, your friendships or anything else! If The Lord speaks to you, and tells you to do something, you must obey Him at all costs and have an unshakeable, unmovable Faith in what He told you to do.

2. The Will of God is Not Impulsive!

Impulsive – acting or done without forethought. hasty, emotional, rash.

⭐️Philippians 4:6 -7 – Don’t be anxious about anything; rather, bring up all of your requests to God in your prayers and petitions, along with giving thanks. Then the peace of God that exceeds all understanding will keep your hearts and minds safe in Christ Jesus.

A few years ago, I was watching this story on tv, it was an interview with this young man who was single and heavily involved in ministry. One day, after service his pastor pulled him and another young lady aside.

He told the man he was to marry this young lady, (who he later found out was the pastors niece) and that she was the wife God ordained him to be with.

In the interview the man said, I was not attracted to her, I did not like her and she was not even the type of woman I pictured myself marrying.

But, listening to The man of God, he took the woman out on a few dates, and after a while, she began to grow on him. A year later he married her, and 6 months after that they were getting a divorce.

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Sadly, this is not the first story I’ve heard like this, and I’m sure it won’t be the last. The story ends with the man marrying another young lady he was already interested in (prior to the disaster) and they have been married for over 17 years now. His whole interview was about hearing the voice of God for yourself and not letting people control your destiny.

Although, that is a hard lesson for anyone to learn, one thing we as Christians must understand is that,

⭐️Note: No one can tell you the will of God for your life. Only God can.

Just like I got fed up with being confused and listening to people and fled to Ghana for 3 weeks; sometimes it takes drastic measures for you to hear the voice of the Lord over the voice of The people.

Because this man just went with the flow and allowed someone to project their will onto him without thinking twice about it, he later had to pay the price for it, with divorce.

Ladies and gents, the will of God is not hasty and sporadic! Just because someone tells you something, doesn’t mean that’s the will of God for your life.

If you’re going to school to be a doctor, and you go to a church one day, and a prophet says, “I see you being a hair dresser!” And you know good and well you don’t know nothing about no hair.

That doesn’t mean you go and change your major just because some prophet told you to. (Every Prophet does not speak for The Lord)

True words from the Lord come to CONFIRM what The Lord has already shown you, told you, or placed in your spirit. But they do not come to throw you off course if you’re already walking in His Will for your life.

And when it comes to spouses…

Y’all… 🤦🏽‍♀️

Please… lol…

Leave that in God’s hands…

Don’t let nobody put you with someone talking about, “It’s God ordained” just because that’s their niece, nephew, friend or second cousin twice removed.

Unless of course,

You wanna look like this on your wedding day!

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Lately, I’ve been studying and finding out a whole lot about the will of God, and concerning spouses?

I’ve learned, people will tell you the very person who God has ordained for your life is not for you, and a person He hasn’t ordained for your life, is for you. 🤦🏽‍♀️

I remember listening to Amanda Ferguson a while ago, (I love her vlogs)! And on her periscope, she talked about how so many people came to her, and told her not to marry her now husband, (who she’s been happily married to for years); & check this out y ‘all, some of them were even close family members!

Now, looking at how far God has brought them, the favor of God on their lives and their marriage, and how much they’re still in love with each other, she said she would’ve been a fool had she listened to them.

So, please hear me y’all..

It’s just not that deep…

When it was time for Isaac to get married, Abrahams servant (who had been sent out to find Isaac a wife) prayed to The Lord and asked for a specific sign to know who God had chosen for Isaac. Even though Rebecca came right over and did the very thing he prayed for! (Confirming The Lord was in this), Rebecca still had to make a decision.

She could either choose to stay at home with her family or she could choose to go with the servant & marry Isaac. However, even with all the confirmations from God, she still had to make her own choice.

With that being said,

The Lord may draw you to a person, He may give you dreams about this person, He may give you sign, and He may even ignite a fire in your heart for this person, but walking you down the aisle by your hand and forcing you to marry them..

God will not do.

The Lord shows us His will many times, and in many ways, He may make you uncomfortable outside of His will, but still, He will never force His will upon you.

And one more thing,

⭐️Anyone telling you to hurry up and get married or to hurry because God said this or that, pleaseee be Leery 👀 of them because God is not into the hasty business.

(I will talk more about this in my Next Blog though)

Moving on!

Last, but most certainly not least…

The point I have learned the most is…

3. You Cannot Escape The Will of God!

Since I’ve already given you examples as to how you can know the will of God for your spiritual life and your love life, I wanted to end the blog by touching on your destiny, which is tied to your purpose, and your purpose is the reason you are here in this world.

Just like a man invented a shoe 👞 to solve a bare feet problem, a tooth brush to solve a stinky breath and gingivitis problem.

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You are here for a purpose, and The Lord placed you here to solve a problem in the Earth🌍.

You are not a mistake!

Even if you have been told that your entire life, I am coming to let you know that is a lie from the enemy! God foreknew you and predestined you for His purpose before you were ever born!

⭐️Jeremiah 1:5 – Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you,
    before you were born, I set you apart;
    I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.“

Just recently, The Lord told me what He wanted me to do regarding the gifts and talents He’d placed within me.

When He told me,

I could have smacked myself.

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Turns out, the very music He want’s me to sing, is something I already knew deep within my heart years ago..

but, just like everything else the Lord showed me,

I ran from it.

I wanted to sing/write for money. I wanted me and my family to live well off. Honestly, I could care less about what God wanted me to do with my talents.

I mean they are My Talents right?

Ignoring those tugs to sing for The Lord, I rejected what I already knew and signed a publishing deal. Here I was, 21 years old, and about to start making over a hundred grand a year! Two weeks after signing the contract, I had gotten my first advance! Which was over 50,000 dollars.

I felt on top of the world!

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However, that was as far as I got.

Shortly after I signed my publishing deal, people began to walk away.

My manager, my lawyer, my social media team.

Everybody.

The record deals and contract offers, started slowing down as well.

I am ashamed to say this went on for 4 years before I finally got the point.

(I can be so stubborn at times)

While I was in Ghana, on what I now call My Destiny Trip, The Lord spoke to me again,

“Takyah, I want you to sing for me.”

Except this time,

Unlike all the other times when I was full of pride..

This time, I was broken..

And when He asked me to sing for Him again

I couldn’t refuse..

I lifted my hands to The Father, and with tears streaming down my face,

I cried out, “Yes Lord, I’ll sing for you! Please…Father, I want to.”

Once I uttered those words, the Peace of God overtook me,

& since that very moment, I have been drenched in His peace.

 I’m able to feel His presence again.

 And I am so very happy…

I have been out of the will of God so long, that I forgot what it felt like to be in it.

It’s a joy unexplainable, It’s an assurance of His Approval that doesn’t need to be confirmed.

Yall… I am so happy!

So much so, that I am crying right now even writing to you..

but these are not tears of Pain or Sadness,

They are tears of Joy.

Now that I look back on my life, It’s kind of sad, seeing how many times I asked The Lord, “Lord what do you want me to do? Show me your will!” And Every time He would show me, I would say, “Nah…that can’t be it. Lord show me what you REALLY want me to do!”

To go in circles for years and find out that His will is exactly what He showed me the first time..

Do I feel stupid?

Absolutely…

But You know what?

The lessons I’ve learned over the past few years will continue to teach me for a lifetime.

Sis/Bro, God didn’t place you here to party, have wild sex, get on drugs and live selfishly for yourself. Although, you can go on doing life your way; I want you to know, He did place you here to do His Will. There are books about you, already written in Heaven. How your life will go, who you will marry, even down to your very last breath. However, you cannot access these books or what’s written in them apart from The Very One who wrote it.

⭐️Hebrews 10:7 – Then I said, ‘Here I am—it is written about me in the scroll—
I have come to do your will, my God.

⭐️Hebrews 12:2 – looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith,

At the end of your journey, one thing that is true..

Is that your spirit will leave your body and you will stand before The Father…

And when you do…

“the people” will not be standing with you

“your family” will not be standing with you

“your parents” will not be standing with you

“The fear that made you disobey God” will not be there

“Neither will the doubt or the pride”

The only thing that will be there, is you and The Lord.

And when you are standing before Him..

Giving an account on what you did with the life He gave you…

Will He call you unprofitable? Or will He smile and Welcome You in?

The decision…

Is all yours.

So whoever you are, and wherever you are,

If you’re out of the will of God or have any confusions about God’s will for your life.

Go to Him.

Talk to Him.

And wait for His answer.

But I am telling you,

Do what you must to get back in His Will.

Your “Well Done Thy Good and Faithful Servant” depends on it…

rewarded-saint

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P.S. 

I have never done this before but The Holy Spirit told me to do it and I am following His leading,

If you don’t know Jesus and want to know Him, and you want to experience The Love He has for you in a tangible way.

Repeat this prayer,

Dear Father,

I admit I have sinned. I have done many things that don’t please you. I have lived my life for myself only. I am sorry, and I repent. I ask you to forgive me.
I believe that you sent your son Jesus Christ to die on the cross for me, to save me. You sent Him to do what I could not do for myself. I come to you now and ask you to take control of my life; I give it to you. From this day forward, help me to live every day for you and in a way that pleases you.
I love you, Lord, and I thank you that I will spend all eternity with you. In Jesus name I pray.
Amen.

If you’ve just prayed that prayer Welcome to the family! Inbox me, and let me know if you want, and I’ll help you understand the beautiful life changing decision you’ve just made!

Love you!!!

Until next time My loves!

Love,

Takyah

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4 Signs He’s a Keeper

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Hey Ladies!!

I miss talking to you girls so much!

There are SO many things I want to tell you thats happened in my personal life since my last blog!

However, I’ll wait to spill all those juicy details when The Lord gives me permission ☺️.

Okay..

As we all know, cuffing season has officially begun!

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With that being said,..

Starting a new relationship around this time of year can be tricky if you don’t know what to look for in a good man.

With the Holidays right around the corner and men dishing out their best “smooth criminal lines.” It can be difficult to discern if a man is really interested in you or if he just wants to stay warm for the winter.

Today, I will be giving tips on how you yourself can spot a man who’s worthy of your time and worth keeping around.

(Even after the Holidays have passed).

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1. He Does What He Says

The number one sign you’re dating a great man is that he often does what he says.

The reason I said often is because we do know things happen and plans can change due to situations that are beyond our control.

However, a man who breaks his promises and cancels on you consistently is a man who doesn’t value you.

When a man loves you, or is interested in you sis, HE WILL SHOW YOU! A lot of guys talk a good game, but the man who backs up his words with actions; is definitely a keeper.

⭐️NOTE: A man’s love for you lies in his actions not 🚫 his words.

2. He Compromises

What really sets a man apart from all the rest, is his ability to compromise.

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If a man is willing to admit his mistakes, and find a solution to how he can make things right or better for the two of you.

Hold on to him sis!

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Men disappoint women, and women disappoint men. We’re all human and we all make mistakes. A person’s character isn’t revealed when they make a mistake. It’s what one does AFTER making the mistake that matters most.

If a man does something that you didn’t like and he puts his pride aside to make things right with you, that speaks V-O-L-U-M-E-S to his character and let’s you know he won’t be the type of husband that runs every time a problem surfaces.

But, if a man shuts down & runs away every time you confront him about something he’s doing that hurts you.

Think about where you want this relationship to go sis?

Do you really want to be married to a man who:

  • always thinks he’s right,
  • never compromises
  • & never even takes the time to hear you out?

If he’s running away from you now & avoiding his wrongs in the courting stage, just imagine how he will act if the two of you get married!

⭐️NOTE: Also, make sure your relationship is a safe haven for him to express himself!

Another reason men don’t like admitting when they’re wrong is because women have a tendency to rub their noses👃🏾 in it!

When a man is wrong and he apologizes, accept his apology and MOVE ON! Do not sit there talking about what he did for days on end! Doing that makes it so much harder for him to come and talk to you the next time.

3. He Points You to Christ

A trait that is beautiful yet so rare these days, is a man who knows how to give a woman back to The Lord!

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There is this song called: “Lord I Lift Her Up” by T.D. Jakes and I absolutely love it!

In this song, the man is telling his woman:

Baby I love you. I will hold you in my arms, I will kiss you and let you cry on my chest when you need to, but I am not GOD. In this song, the man is praying to the Lord about the woman he loves, and he’s lifting her up to the Lord in prayer so she can find true peace. Peace he realizes only The Lord can provide for her.

A man from The Lord, will want you to be as close to The Father as he is. He will not come into your life to distract you, nor will he try to take your mind off the things of God.

If you’re dating a man who loves The Lord and leads you to Christ when times get rough, he is a man that is nothing short of Amazing.

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Okay ladies, here we are at our last point!

And if your man does this?

Let me know right now, so I can get hooked up with his brother!

lol j/k.😜

Any who…

A good sign to know if a man is really worth keeping is if,

4. He Does Chivalrous Things for You

Chivalry: courteous behavior, politeness, especially that of a man towards women.

Buying you flowers for no reason, Opening up doors for you, and calling you to make sure you made it home safely after a date,

is not old fashioned,

it’s beautiful.

There was this story on Instagram I saw the other day and I literally cried when I saw it. This young man was interested in this woman and although I don’t know the full story,  

I don’t have too! 

Simply the way he asked her out was enough for me to know he truly cares for her! Oneday, he walked her to her car, and after she’d gotten settled in he popped this big “Can I Court You?” sign out.

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I read his post, and found out the brotha spent 4 whole hours making the sign alone.

His reasons were, “I just wanted it to be perfect for her.”

A few months after she said yes to being his girlfriend, she has now said yes to being his wife!

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⭐️NOTE: Men always put forth effort for a woman they really like!

We as women settle for so many things when it comes to dating, but one thing we should never settle on is how we allow a man to treat us.

If he’s not being chivalrous towards you. (Or not even attempting), more than likely, he probably doesn’t think you’re worth the effort.

Think about it sis…

Do you think, a man who’s been waiting a long time to date a particular woman will just treat her any kind of way when she gives him the opportunity?

Uhm.. No!

I guarantee! That man will be pulling all kinds of tricks out of his hat to make sure the woman he adores is impressed.

Please don’t settle for the okey dokey!

If a brotha is not answering when you call, treating you like an OPTION, and doesn’t mind letting doors slam in your face. Chances are, you’re not the one he wants to be with.

However, if it’s been years and he’s still treating you with tenderness & love, KEEP HIM sis!

Chivalry in a man is rare!

Alright Ladies!

I’m out of here! I gotta head out to my girls Bridal Shower!

I hope you all enjoyed the blog!!

Until Next time!

Takyah Love 😘

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Dear Future Husband, This is My Last Letter…

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Hey baby!

I know you may not like the title of this blog but I gotta be honest..

This has been a long time coming.

Not that I write sooo many letters to you or anything; it’s simply time for me to get my mind and emotions together..

Although, this isn’t an easy task to do, it’s definitely necessary.

You see babe, this past year,

I lost myself…

I stopped going out,

I stopped working out,

I stopped having fun,

I declined every invitation I’d gotten to hang out.

I stopped praying and spending time with the Lord.

I stopped getting my hair done.

My hands and feet are not painted as prettily anymore.

And honestly?

My bedroom became my best-friend.

Inside those four walls, I clung to loneliness. I succumbed to depression, and I allowed a stupid relationship status to suck me dry of all joy.

I went inside of this dark hopeless shell 🐚 and only stuck my head out when I thought 💭 I’d met you. As soon as I realized it wasn’t you? I went right back inside my protective shell and snapped at anyone who tried to come in.

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If one of my single sisters told me they’d finally met their King👑?

Oh, I congratulated them very well..

I celebrated them by rolling my eyes, raising my eyebrows and whenever one of them mentioned their boyfriends name or asked me to help with wedding plans I’d mumble jealous thoughts under my breath.

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Now, don’t get me wrong, I’d genuinely be happy for my sisters at first…

but then bitterness would set in…

Most days, I found myself feeling just like Hannah before she had Samuel. Penina being every other sister who’s raved about her fiance’ or asked me to help with wedding details KNOWING I’ve been single for almost 6 years…

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Sometimes I got so angry, I sized my fellow sisters up from head to toe.

What makes her think she can get married before me?

I have wayyy more to offer a man than she does!

Who does she think she is?

(I know that sounds terrible).

but the reality is this is who I’d become…😞

And It’s horrible because,

THIS IS NOT ME!

Everyone who knows me knows,

  • I’m happy!
  • Cheerful!
  • Love Jesus with all my heart
  • Sweet
  • Caring!
  • Encouraging!
  • Have deep compassion for others.
  • Hilariously funny (If I do say so myself)
  • & fun to be around!

But waiting for you?

Especially this past year…

Has gotten the best of me.

So much so, I’d forgotten who I really was…

Then, a few weeks ago, something amazing happened and I was reminded of the woman God made me to be.

Early September, I was invited to a women’s church event. Although, I desperately wanted to decline and dreaded the invitation.

This time, I forced myself to go.

And a miracle happened while I was there!

Here I am, in the corner, wearing this big jacket, broken, busted, (looking like a homeless person) and The Lord prompts me to prophesy to a young lady..

I’m thinking 💭? How in the world can I prophesy to her when I’m depressed myself? Lord… why are you trying to use me like this? Look at me Jesus! Can you please lead someone else to speak to her? I begged.

Nevertheless, I listened to the Holy Spirit, walked over to the young lady and began to speak (telling her exactly what the Holy Spirit gave me). I hadn’t even finished the first sentence before this woman burst into tears. After I prayed with her, she opened up to me.

Turns out, she was on the verge of commiting suicide, and giving up on life completely. After the event, we exchanged numbers, and a week later I spoke with her again.

I could tell she was much happier than when I’d met her a week before! I could hear the joy in her voice! Then, just when I thought God had used me enough for His glory, she told me something wonderful happened to her the night I prayed for her.

She said, “Ms. Takyah, I don’t know why, but when you prayed for me I felt an urgency to throw away my pornography and other things I brought from the adult store.” She also said she felt a pulling from The Lord to start “living a pure lifestyle.”

Now, she doesn’t know that I have a call to “Purity” on my life, In fact, she knows nothing about me, except that I am a woman with big hair that prophesied to her.

Click here to order your very own copy of “Purity over PASSION!”

However, after that night and that conversation with her, I kicked myself!

Takyah!!! What are you doing??

God has need of you! Don’t you see why the enemy is trying to distract you and keep you  feeling the blues! He wants you to stay in your little bubble focused on what you don’t have instead of what you do have!

You are blessed! You are beautiful! You are a wonderful woman! Yes, the man who takes your hand 🤚🏽 will be very favored and fortunate, but you are more than his future wife!

You are a PROPHETESS!

You are a SINGER!

You are a WRITER!

You are an AUTHOR!

You are an ENTREPRENEUR!

You are an INVENTOR!

You are a FASHION DESIGNER!

You are a DAUGHTER!

An AUNTIE!

And a SISTER!

Although you may not be a mom or a wife yet, look at who you are already!

Since that day three weeks ago, I have taken control of my life! I’ve met a new girl-friend to hang out with who’s amazing! I’ve been spending time with God & reading His word like I used to! I’ve started working out again! I’ve even lost 11 pounds! I’ve been more positive and upbeat about life and situations!

And you won’t believe this!

I haven’t cried ONE night since I ministered to that young lady! Which is a very BIG deal, (Seeing how I was crying 😭 every other night thinking about you).

So, with that being said…

Future Husband,..

I am walking away from you 😌…

Completely…

I cannot miss out on souls because I’m upset you aren’t here yet! I cannot miss out on destiny because I’m stuck in a bedroom idolizing marriage. I CANNOT ignore The Holy Spirit any longer because I’m too upset with God to hear His voice clearly.

I am saddened at my behavior, and wonder how many other times have I had my head in the clouds ☁️ thinking about you, that I missed out on a soul, or the chance to impact someone’s life for the better?

Through her eyes, I saw how much God has need of me.

And I needed that…

Although, I love the thought of you.

The thought of kissing 💋 you,

The thought of holding your hand as we walk on the beach 🏖,

The thought of cuddling 🤗 with you by the fireplace as I whoop you in a good card game🃏♠️ ,

The thought of your hands going…

😳 ehhh…

sorry… I almost forgot this was a public blog…

tehehe (evil laugh)..

Anywho…

Baby I lovvveee the thought 💭 of you…

I REALLY do…

But after 5 1/2 longgggg excruciating years of thinking about you, wondering when you’ll come, how will I know it’s you? So much and so forth…

I Just CAN’T do it anymore!

Over these past few weeks, I’ve been more happier than I’ve been in a long time, and now that I know what it’s like to feel that joy in my heart again…

I can’t give that up.

Not for You!

Not for Idris Elba!

Not for Chadwick Boseman! 🤤

or Anyone Else!

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Okay…

Maybe for Chadwick Boseman 🤔…

But certainly not for anybody else!

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And You know what babe?

It actually feels really good to tell you that!

So Yeah!!

Take that Future Husband!

In Your Face!!

lol..just kidding!

But, don’t lose heart babe! When I say I’m walking away from you; I’m still waiting for you as far as intimacy, sex and emotions go…

But waiting for you like I was at first?

Ughhhhhh 🤔

NO.

Lol.

I am getting back out there! I am about to live my life again! I’m going to keep worshiping The Father, singing, writing, prophesying and I will never lose sight of WHO I AM ever again!

Although, this is the last letter I’ll write to you or about you, until after we’re engaged 💍. (whenever that will be, don’t really care anymore 🤷🏽‍♀️) however, I want you to know that I love you..

So, so, so, so much…

This isn’t goodbye, it’s just, I must focus on the Lord 100% now, and leave the idea of you alone for good.

When it’s time for us to be together,

I know The Lord will do what He’s always done, and that’s come through with His Promises, right when I really need it..

Numbers 23:19 – “God is not a man, that He should lie,
Nor a son of man, that He should repent.
Has He said, and will He not do it?
Or has He spoken and will He not make it good and fulfill it?

See ya later baby…

Love,

You’re Future Wifey,

Xoxo 💋

👒 Takyah 👒

P.S. This is my favorite gospel song of all time! I thought you might like to hear it:

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Dear, Blind Married Couple…

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Hey there ladies and gents!

This is your girl Takyah! Coming at you with a fresh order of deep thinking🤔.

Tonights deep thoughts will be served with a side order of anger 😡, topped off with hunger 😫 and sprinkled with just the right amount of crazy meds💊🤪.

I don’t know if it’s the medicine or what…

But I have been thinking very deeply and listening to Bobby Womack since this morning.

For those of you who don’t know, I had surgery earlier this morning and my mouth has been bleeding ever since! Not to mention I had to get stitches, because one of my gums ripped during the extraction. So, yes, I am in alot of pain.

Unless, of course, I take the medicine my doctor prescribed.

But, I haven’t been able to take the pain medicine properly because I haven’t eaten since 5 a.m. this morning.

And that!

ladies and gentlemen, is what inspired me to write this blog..

I’m lying in bed, sore & in pain, bleeding everywhere and no one is free to pick up soup for me to eat. My mom just left the house to go somewhere but I don’t think it was for soup…😢

Any way…

In my new blog, “Dear, Blind Married Couple” I’d like to discuss people who are blindly married and don’t realize how blessed they truly are.

To the ungrateful married woman & self-absorbed husband, I am coming for both of you, in this rendition of “Late Night Thoughts With Takyah” blog style.

⭐️NOTE TO READER: This is coming from a single woman who is on medication, hungry and in a lot of pain.⭐️

Now, I’m not using that as an excuse to get out of character, but you know what they say…. 👀

You’re not you when you’re hungry…

With that being said, this blog will not be nice.

Alright… ladies and gents,

Let’s get started!

First off, I’d like to start tonight’s blog off by saying two simple words…

SHUT UP!

You ole’ nagging wife!

Your husband pays the bills,

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Keeps a roof over your family’s head

Goes to work everyday,

Rubs your feet when their hurting,

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Pulls up the car for you when it’s storming outside ☔️ (so you don’t get wet in the rain)

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And been faithful to you and only you.

He’s nothing short of a God-sent superhero husband!

He opens up doors for you so much that if you stood at a door 🚪 (without him opening it), you probably wouldn’t even know how to turn the freakin’ handle.

He pays for you to get your hair done, your nails done, as well as all those random shopping sprees you and your girls like to have.

Not to mention how he caters to you and makes you feel in the love department…

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He’s also a man who cares for you, and gives you the best wisdom in all your “I’m about to go Loca!” moments.

You know what else he does?

He sits, and listens to your random rants, whether he wants to hear them or not.

And even after you’ve hurt his pride by comparing him to Tina’s husband, He’s still brainstorming ideas and trying to come up with the next thing he can do to make you happy.

When you needed help opening up all those stupid airtight pickle jars, he was right there! All big and strong like Tarzan! Ready to do anything you asked. You used to praise him for his efforts and call him your Hero.

But now?

Hmm…

He’s just not that important to you anymore huh?

That’s because you take him for granted, you selfish, nagging wife..

It’s almost as if you forgot who he truly is..

A KING,

Your KING.

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Oh, and let’s not forget you,

You arrogant husband!

And how unappreciative you are towards the woman who cooks for you

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Cleans the house for you,

Has your clothes washed, folded and Starched clean so you can look sharp everyday.

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Let’s not forget how she has to get a job every now & then to help out with the bills because, although you make a lot of money, you’re not so frugal when it comes to it..

Oops did I say that?

Hmm… I guess I did!

The wife you are so unappreciative of, has to work, get home from that job, get the children ready, feed you, feed them, clothe them, clothe you and send you all off to work and school happily every morning.

 After all of that chaos, she then tries to get some “Me-Time” but realizes “Oh no, I can’t today because my husband wants me to go run a couple errands for him! Or, “I promised the kids I would have lunch with them today!”

Me time will just have to wait for another day she says.

Yet “Me time” never comes. But I guess as long as dinner is on the table by the time your favorite football team comes on, you could care less about her getting the time she needs to rejuvenate her soul, mind and body.

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You never take the time out to spend with your wife or listen to her, you reject her continuously in the areas of “quality time”, yet you want her to be ready to make love to you whenever you feel like it.

Pssh….. give me a break.

Your wife changed her hair color, lost 20 pounds and even tried this new lipstick color just so you could call her beautiful like you used to when the two of you first started dating,

And what did you do?

Nothing.

You walked right past her and didn’t even open your mouth.

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Some nerve you got?

Comparing her to all those superficial women, while you yourself have a belly that sticks out worse than a busted lip.

She, your beautiful wife, stood by you when you were sick, broke & helped you become the very man that you are today and you have the audacity to think you could have married someone better…

I’d love to see how fast one of those pretty little models you like so much, leave you as soon as you get sick, or can’t walk.

Let’s see how long one of them will stay?

“Christina?”

That’s right! Two seconds and she’s gone Charles!!!

What’s my point in all of this?

My point is, if you are married, wishing you could be single,…

Shut up and make it work with your spouse because honestly,

As selfish, arrogant, and undeserving as you sound,

You wouldn’t last one day as a “Real Single“

Although you think it’s so much easier, I beg to differ. True singleness is not selfishness. In fact, true singleness has the same purpose that marriage does, and that is to be holy like Jesus Christ and serve the Father.

I’m not talking about “single people” who have 10 different partners and sleep around every weekend, neither am I referring to the ones that have 8 Bae’s they call “Boo”.

Oh no sweetie…

I’m talking about a real single….

A single godly woman who actually lives what she preaches,

Who by the way, is lying in the bed right now with gauzes in her mouth, angrily hungry because there is no one to get soup for her!

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No bae to call, no boo to text.

But a real “Waiting on God’s best for me” single woman.

Not a fake woman of God, who keeps abusing the grace message, so she can keep throwing it back for every man of God that steps to her.

Oh, no…I’m speaking of a real single who has kept herself to herself and is BEYOND sexually frustrated!

Who’s also, extremely upset because while she was running in the rain, her stupid umbrella broke and flipped upside down! Causing her whole head to get drenched!

And guess what’s coming next if she doesn’t hurry up and get out of these wet clothes?

A nasty cold…

And guess who’ll help nurse this single woman back to health if that happens?

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Exactly…

Yes, I’m talking about a real single..

A woman who pumps her own gas ⛽️, shovels her own snow during the winter time; who almost messed up her car, cause she put the windshield fluid in the wrong hole/pipe or whatever you call those stupid things under the hood!

If you’re ungrateful.

and married to the person you once swore was the love of your life.

My word for you tonight is,

S-H-U-T  U-P!

Yes, being single has its freedom and perks, but lets not forget all the downs it has as well. “Focus on God” all the married women advise, while they go home to a warm bed with big arms to hold them at night and a big chest to sleep on.

“You’re not loving yourself enough!”

“You need to find out who you are first then you can love a man properly!”

“Enjoy you some you time before you get married.”

Just shut- up! I’ve done all those things already!

If I love myself any more, I’ll be standing here looking like this “coo-coo” bird who married herself a few years ago.

married herself

How much prayer did you pray to become an ungrateful wife?

How much anointing do I have to have to be a wife like you?

Oh do tell, you nag of a married woman, who complains every 5 seconds about her husband.

I would love to see you last a month without being able to touch a man. Try 5 years going on 6 next May..

Cry yourself to sleep for months on end,

Wake up in the middle of the night wanting to do what your body naturally wants to do and refuse it!

Go years sitting at a restaurant table by yourself eating alone.

Then come back and give me advice…

I swear I wish I could do this to all of you ungrateful married folk!

Married women, shut up.

Married men, shut up.

Listen to Bobby Womack, and while you’re listening to him, I want you to look at your spouse and realize one thing for me tonight..

Just how blessed you are…

Sign,

The Real Singles,

Who are frustrated, angry, pissed off to the highest level of “PISSTIVITY”, hungry, and VERY MUCH anointed women and men of God!

Goodnight!

***Update: 9:00 P.M.***

Ahhhh my mommy did get me Potato soup! Two bowls of it! One for tonight and one for tomorrow! I love her so much! Thanks ma! 🙂

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When God Writes Your Love Story…

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Hey 👋🏼 Ladies!!!

The reason I have not had a chance to write to you, is because ya girl has been crazy busy lately! When I tell you I am so overdue for a pampering spa-package and a beach 🏖 vacay, I don’t know what to do!

Any who, today’s blog is not about me,

It’s about us.

Yes Ladies..

US..

Getting the love we deserve,

being treated with respect

having our hearts handled with care.

And US, knowing who we are, and not settling for anything less than what we truly deserve.

A man who will have a heart after God and a man who will love us to infinity and beyond. 

With that being said ladies, without further ado, I present to you, “When God Writes Your Love Story.”

1. 😇 You won’t be in constant battle ✍🏼

I am a firm believer, that when God writes your love story, it will be one of the most peaceful relationships ever.

Why?

Because God will be in it!

I know I’ve probably mentioned this before, but I want you ladies to really understand me.

The only time you or your guy friend should ever be warring is when the two of you are (warring in prayer for one another, or against the enemy). There should never be an ongoing war just to maintain your relationship.

  • You should not be warring and praying that a man calls you back
  • You should not be fasting for him to take you out on a date
  • And you definitely shouldn’t have to call the mother board & intercessory team, to touch & agree with you that a man will see your worth and choose you to be his wife.

(Yes I have been around women in the church who have actually done that) 🤦🏽‍♀️

If you’re doing all that praying and warring just to get him, can you imagine all the trouble you will have to go through to keep him?

The truth is,

⭐️NOTE: You will never have to war for a man whom The Lord is ready & willing to give to you.

Although, you will have to (cover) your boyfriend or soon to be husband in prayer, (because the enemy will try to attack what God has joined together) however, you should not be warring for the basic requirements a man should provide in an exclusive relationship.

It just doesn’t make sense.

I know it may hurt to let someone go who’s been apart of your life for many months or years, but God wants to give you someone greater than a man who’s only giving 20% of himself. Retire from your tug-o-war game sis and show The Lord you trust Him!

Let go and make room for The New Thing God wants to do in your life!

⭐️NOTE: When God has approved the two of you, His grace will flow all over the relationship, because you’re in alignment with His will.

2. 😇 You won’t have to change yourself ✍🏼

When God is writing your story, you won’t have to change who you are just to make this person happy.

I am a woman who’s Loves the Lord, I love worshipping, I’m silly, I sing, I love to cook, I love writing, I enjoy cleaning, I’m extremely goofy, I’m sweet and laid back, yet very discerning. I’m deep, I find revelation in the smallest of things and I see in the spiritual realm; angels, demons and all.

But if I have to stop being deep, stop singing, stop being silly or dumb myself down just because I don’t want to seem like I’m too much for someone, God is not in it.

⭐️NOTE: Know the value of self.

I am very valuable, and I know that now more than ever before. Years ago, when I didn’t know my value, I would pretend to be weak, dumb and many other things, just so I wouldn’t intimidate or offend the man I was dating.

But now… I simply don’t care 🤷🏽‍♀️ lol.

And neither should you.

If you have to make major changes in your personality, or alter the best parts of you, I guarantee! You are not getting Gods best. God would never ask you to hide the real you for a man sis.

So, don’t do it!

Let the real you shine ☀️ and your Hubby will be attracted to you. Not some fake made up version you’re pretending to be.

⭐️NOTE: If he doesn’t like the real you, he’s not who God has for you.

3. 😇 You Will Feel Special ✍🏼

When God is writing your love story, He will give you a man that will sweep you off your feet.

My sis at my church ⛪ just got engaged in the most romantic way ever, and this man is head over heels for her as she is for him. The love they have for one another and all the planning this man did, had all the sisters in church in tears! Especially me!

Hearing her love story and seeing the engagement video not only gave me hope that God will have someone like that for me one day, but it also confirmed what I already knew about men.

And what I knew was when a man is truly in love with you, he will go to great depths just to make sure you know that. Time will not separate his love and circumstances will not make him change his mind. He will even move mountains if he has to.

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If you’re with a man and your unsure of his feelings for you, he never defines the relationship, or he simply seems to not care much about the relationship at all?

It’s probably time to rest and give that thing up sis..

The Bible says,

⭐️Proverbs 10:22– The blessings of the Lord makes a person rich, and He adds no sorrow with it.

What God is saying is that every blessing that comes from Him will prosper you and make you richer and there will be no sorrow attached to it!

Ask yourself,

Is this person making me richer?

What value are they adding to my life?

Are they depositing into me or simply withdrawing?

If you’re sorrowful, warring all the time and feel as if you are left hanging like a loose thread, think 💭 is this who The Father? The giver of good gifts truly have for me?

Some of you already know the answer to that question.

But for the ones who don’t know and really want clarity, Pray and ask God about them. (Just be ready for the answer).

And if The Lord is not writing your love story, and you want Him to; I challenge you to turn in your ink pen and allow Him (The Author and finisher of our Faith) to write a love story that will be divinely directed by The Lord Himself.

As always,

Love you girls!

Xoxo 😘

Love,

🌻 Takyah 🌻