Oh my gosh!! I cannot wait until you see the full website when I get done!
I know you may have noticed that some things are changing and it’s being decorated but you haven’t seen anything yet!
My ministry page on IG @livingwithtakyah is about to be so cute!!!
Not to mention my new YouTube! 🥰 Y’all I am so excited!
When I tell you it feels so good to be walking in the obedience of The Lord & to be picking back up the ministry & call He placed on my life!
I am over filled with so much joy!
So much so, that it actually makes me wonder why I didn’t obey God much sooner.
Which brings me to my point.
Today, I want to talk about counterfeits and how they can negatively disrupt your life or even get you out of God’s will (if you let them).
I’m going to give you stories from the Bible, that show, just how important our “Yes” is To God.
Let’s get started with a definition!
Counterfeit: a fraudulent imitation of something else; a forgery.
I have dated 2 men since my last engagement and unfortunately all of them, (including my 2nd ex fiancé) were counterfeits.
I swear I could write a whole book on “counterfeits!”
I might one day, but for now, let me write this blog! lol.
Any who, as I have studied them, and (me) (& how they got access into my life) I wanted to know, “Lord, what on earth is their purpose?” And “Why in the crap do I keep going through this?”
While some, I believe God “allowed” (so I could learn lessons) there were definitely a few I wish I could’ve avoided all together!! 😒
In today’s blog, “Counterfeits Vs. The Promise.”
I want to explain how “our thoughts”, “impatience” and even our “idolatry of a thing,” can open up the door for us to receive counterfeits.
1. OUR THOUGHTS 💭
“For my thoughts are not your thoughts,
neither are your ways my ways,”
declares the Lord.
9 “As the heavens are higher than the earth,
so are my ways higher than your ways
and my thoughts than your thoughts.
The more valuable something is, the more likely it is to be counterfeited.
The power in a counterfeit is that it deceives someone into wrongly believing that what they have is real, true and valuable when in fact it is fake, false, and worthless.
For this reason, it is vital that we learn to distinguish what was sent by God versus what was sent by Satan.
Now, before we get into this blog it is also vital that you know that just because somebody is a counterfeit to you, does NOT mean they’re a counterfeit to everybody.
That’s not how that works.
It works much more like this:
If you have an iPhone & you try to charge it with a Samsung Charger 🔌 will it work?
After many attempts of trying to make it work, your iPhone will eventually start to lose its Power because it’s not connected to the right charger.
Eventually, after losing so much power, it will die.
There are no if’s, ands or buts about it. That’s just the way it is.
You can’t take that iPhone📱to a Samsung Store and demand that the manufacturer “make it work” when they were never designed to go together in the first place.
I’m sure the manufacturer would look at you, like you had a few screws missing.
It is the same with God.
Some people are just not going to work no matter what you do, or how many (relationship) seminars you go to.
In these situations, we cannot go to God and demand He makes it work. We cannot twist the hand of God as if he was a child. He is not our child. But we are His.
He is not going to do our will, but we will do His.
Besides, His will and thoughts for us are so much better than ours anyway.
“Our Thoughts 💭” are what get us into the mess that we sometimes find ourselves in. (Example: My 2 failed engagements)
Our thoughts tell us, “Girl, he cute, he got money, he got a house, he say he love God! Go ahead and get that ring sis!”
But God is saying, “He’s a cheater, he’s a liar, he has 3 baby mama’s, he quotes the Bible, yet he doesn’t have a real relationship with me, he’s selfish and he’s going to hurt you.”
That is why it is so VITAL that we cast down our thoughts and renew our minds with the promises of God that can be found in His Word.
When society’s stressors come to put pressure on you or choke the hope out of your “Yes to God” REFUSE and RESIST and stay on the path The Lord has laid out for you.
Do not let people who say,
“You should’ve been married by now.”
“You should’ve had a baby by now.”
“You should’ve had a house by now.”
Cause you to go get married to a Demon, have children that grow up in a dysfunctional home, and live in a house with no peace.
Please read: Marrying Outside of Gods Will
✨Note: The same people that cheer you on, or tell you to go make “hasty decisions” will not be living in your house with you or there for the hurt, pain or discomfort you’ll feel for rushing God.
Forget about what people think, and even what you think!
Download God’s thoughts 💭.
To know His Will/Thoughts for you, you have to stay in His presence & read His Word! The counsel from your family and friends are great! But nevertheless the counsel of The LORD is what will ultimately stand.
I know, LORD, that our lives are not our own. We are not able to plan our own course.
A person’s steps are directed by the LORD. How then can anyone understand their own way?
2. IMPATIENCE 🏃🏽♀️💨
There are a lot of things that causes us to be Impatient, (thus opening the door for counterfeits); but I do believe fake calendars (that’s we’ve made up) & unbelief/fear are the main 2 culprits.
Whoever is patient has great understanding,Proverbs 14:29
Be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.Psalm 27:14
I’ve talked about impatience in a blog before. However, I am not sure which one.😅
So, for the sake of this point, I’ll speak on it again.
Impatience is what got Abraham and Sarah in trouble.
Sarah “doubting” and “not believing God” is what caused her to tell Abraham to go into Hagar and bare her a son.
You can imitate the Position but you cannot imitate the “Promise.”
Ismael was not the promise and that was God’s final word.
The blessings of God would be on Isaac. Regardless.
The word says that the blessings of The Lord will overtake us. That’s good news that sets us free! That means that no matter what mistakes we make, we cannot usurp the calendar of events God has planned.
And “Sarah and Abraham’s” story backs up that statement.
Despite the fact that Sarah chose to take matters into her own hands, God still carried out His plan. And at the appointed time, God chose to glorify Himself by fulfilling His Promise, and He did so in the face of seemingly impossible circumstances.
Even though God still had His way and fulfilled the promise of Sarah having a child, she was forced to deal with the consequences of her own handiwork.
Ladies, stories like this encourages us to be still and wait on The Lord. Not to go out and “do our own thing.”
Just recently I had to let go of a man who although was a good guy.
I do not believe he was my guy.
Which brings me to my next point.
3. NO STIRRING
Another way you can know that a man that’s sent to you is a counterfeit, is that he is not stirred up for you.
I don’t mean stirred up for you once he realizes you were a good woman and he acted foolishly, I mean stirred up for you, from the very beginning.
There is a passage in the Bible that talks about How the people were stirred up to do the “Will of God.”
So the LORD stirred up the spirit of Zerubbabel son of Shealtiel, governor of Judah, and the spirit of Joshua son of Jozadak, the high priest, and the spirit of the whole remnant of the people. They came and began to work on the house of the LORD Almighty, their God,Haggai 1:14
Let’s read another one.
When Ruth came to her mother-in-law, Naomi asked, “How did it go, my daughter?” Then she told her everything Boaz had done for her.
and added, “He gave me these six measures of barley, saying, ‘Don’t go back to your mother-in-law empty-handed.”
Then Naomi said, “Wait, my daughter, until you find out what happens. For the man will not rest until the matter is settled today.”Ruth 3:16-18
Ladies, if God is not stirring up this man that you’re dating, let him go. He is not the one. Do not try to force your way or even manipulate your way into his heart.
If you keep going after God has already showed you he ain’t the one.
You’ll find yourself sad and in something later, begging God to get you out of it.
Be at peace with The Lord’s No’s.
They are for your protection.
You can think you want something and half the time it’s not even the desires of Gods heart for you to have it, but God will give it to you. And afterward, you will crush under the very weight of it.
because you made that man, the idea of being with him or being married in general an idol.
It reminds me of Leah and Jacob.
I won’t say too much because I want to stay on topic about a man being “stirred” for you. However, it reminds me of the way (Leah) and her father (Laban) tricked Jacob and knew he wasn’t marrying who he’d worked 7 years for.
I believe she let the idea of marriage, having a husband and being the eldest sister; get her into something that she suffered in for the rest of her life.
The Bible even says that Jacob hated her.
And when the LORD saw that Leah was hated, he opened her womb: but Rachel was barren.
After she saw he didn’t love her, she reasoned within herself, “I’ll have a child and then my husband will love me!” But with each child his heart never changed.
Until, finally, after having so many children she realized that her worth was not in a husband or in having children. But it was in The Lord.
I’m going to write ✍🏽 about self love later this week or early next week too ladies, that is another good point that I believe opens up the door for us to receive counterfeits as well.
Anyway, let me get back to this.
We as women of God, deserve what Jacob and Rachel had, not what Jacob and Leah had.
Just recently I was dating someone.
Now, when I look back on this, I believe I gave too much of myself too soon.
We had only been talking for about 2 1/2 months and already I was into wife mode.
I was cleaning, I was cooking for him and his mom, I was helping him with things he needed. I was letting him drive my truck (his guzzled a lot of gas), I even drove one time to get him from somewhere that was 1 hour away, just to take him back home.
He told me he had a child, and I although I prayed and said “Lord don’t give me a man with a child!” However, after our first date (when I found out he did), I prayed about it.
When I prayed; God was silent. So, I said, “You know what, I can do it! I’ve practically raised my little niece Loreal, so I can do another little girl!”
So, I went out bought $100 worth of stuff for the girl, bought Bible books, ordered a stuffed Animal some clothes. I even wrote out my feelings for him, and told him I would be there for the both of them and help him raise her and I got this book I made for him laminated and it’s costs $20 just to get it laminated. I went to the post office and sent it off to him.
When he got it, he was happy and said that what I had done was so sweet.
I thought 💭 surely, “Now that he sees my heart, he will Know that I am foreal.”
But it wasn’t enough.
That’s that Leah Spirit y’all… 🤦🏽♀️
It’s like he kept waiting on me to change. Waiting on me to be fake, waiting for my character to be something opposite than what I was showing him.
In a sense, when I look back at everything I did for him & even the man prior, I think they could’ve thought I was desperate.
However, that is not the case.
It’s simply me loving people and treating them the way I would want someone to treat me!
I think sometimes men/women can be so used to bad people & toxic relationships, that they don’t even know how to receive a good one when it comes. So, they sit back and test the person continuously or they reject them altogether.
Nevertheless, I am not going to convince you that I am worth the effort.
I will simply put you back and move on. 🤷🏽♀️
Now, I must be fair. He did do a few things that were nice and he was a good man, (I cannot take that away from him.) If I didn’t see any good qualities in him, I would have never given him so many chances in the first place.
However, the bad outweighed the good.
So much so, till one day The Holy Spirit spoke to me and told me “I was worth so much more.” And that was the last day I went to his house. Now it’s been months and I haven’t seen him.
Ladies, please hear me.
We don’t have to force our way.
Let it go.
Get what God wants you to have.
Let’s all be delivered from the spirit of Leah.
If he’s not courting you, the way God wants you to be courted, if he’s not respecting you, the way God wants you to be respected. If he’s not putting forth an effort and it feels like you’re doing everything…
If you have to keep talking to him about the same thing, begging him or giving him chance after chance to get it right.
That is the Lord letting you know, that ain’t for you.
Please understand. The Lord will stir up your future husbands heart for you.
It doesn’t take all that.
I honestly believe loving you will be easy for the man God has for you; because God Himself will put the desire and longing for you in his heart.
Not lust, but longing and there is a difference.
Ladies, I pray this blog blessed you.
Although, we may be unsure as to who the one is.
Know that if a man is doing all of these things I mentioned above or making you feel like you have to work to earn his love.
More than likely he’s a counterfeit.
Until Next Time!
💜 Takyah 💜