There’s something about being called Beautiful that a woman loves to hear. No matter how young or old you are, being given such a compliment can put a smile on your face.
But what is beauty exactly??
Do we equate it with the superficial?
- Is it jewelry? 💍
- Is it makeup?💄
- Is it hair? 👩🏽
Sadly, we’ve been conditioned that beauty is (one who has it all together on the outside). However, God’s word paints quite a different portrait! In this blog,“Beauty from Within” we will discuss two separate but syncretic categories and walk through how to invest in a lasting genuine beauty that continues to blossom with time, vs. the superficial alternatives that fade just as we do…
Okay, here we go!
💄 Beauty for our personal wellbeing💄
How’s about starting with a testimony?
Back in the day…and yes I said back in the day! (lol) I’m actually referring to a time when I knew very little about inner beauty. Let’s just say your girl Takyah…was kind of a mess.
Due to the fact that I dealt with low self-esteem, I found myself always trying to do things to make my outer appearance “beautiful”. Meanwhile neglecting the one thing that needed a total do-over! (my spirit).
I accented my lips, showed off my hips and painted my finger tips. Yet, to my amazement, after all that prepping and watching endless hours of makeup tutorials; I would somehow still feel unworthy of the title “beautiful”. And you know what? I was right! Honey, there was not a makeup pallet in the world that could cover over all those soul blemishes!
It wasn’t until I began to spend time with the Lord, read his word and ask him to transform me completely that I truly became beautiful!
Don’t believe me????
Okay here’s proof!Here’s a picture of me back in May of 2013, when I was focusing on my outside appearance!
Ughh😑… didn’t I look terrible though?
I had on foundation, thick lipstick, my chest practically hanging out in that bra-like cut off shirt, black eyeliner, eyelashes, a nose ring & I still wasn’t beautiful or happy…
Not to mention I had a dark countenance.
In this picture I barely have on any foundation, no liner, no eyelashes and I’m only wearing lipgloss.
I know!!! Crazy right???
I’m telling you sis! Nothing is prettier than a woman who gives herself wholeheartedly to God! There is just a certain beauty and glow that comes from spending time with him, that no makeup brush could ever give!
⭐️ 1 Peter 3:3-4– Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.
Now that we’ve discussed “Beauty for our spiritual well being” let’s dig deeper and take a closer look at “Beauty when it comes to dating…
Beauty VS. Vanity in Dating💄
- Vanity: excessive pride in one’s appearance, qualities, abilities, achievements, etc.; lack of real value; pointless.
- Beauty: quality; grace; something excellent of its kind; a person that gives intense pleasure or deep satisfaction to the mind.
When dating a real man…
Okay..I want all my “I want a husband right now” sista’s especially to pay attention!!
When dating any real man first things first. No man wants a woman who’s obsessively vain. I don’t care how much you think your looks and your charm will keep you at the forefront of that mans mind. If that’s all you’re bringing to the table eventually, especially (if the man is wise) he will begin to look elsewhere for a mate.
⭐️Note: The reason why I said (if he is wise he will look elsewhere) this is because there are actually men out there who are just as shallow as those women can sometimes be. They will marry a beautiful fool, just so she can be a trophy for all his boys to see.
Ladies trust me…you don’t want a man that only wants you for your looks because when another woman comes along, who’s slightly prettier, you will find yourself angry with the decision you made to be with him.
I want to share a chart with you..
On one side you have Brenda and on the other you have Lisa. Let’s take a look at the differences in both women.
- 💁🏻Brenda is drop dead gorgeous, she is a homeowner, car lease in good standing, her business is off the ground and booming, she’s got a brick house body and a credit score of 757!
•However, her character..not so much•
- she has a smart mouth, she’s tit for tat with a man,(meaning if he missed one call of hers she’s going to ignore three of his calls on purpose) she’s insecure,(going through her man’s phone, checking his work jacket & texts him a million times whenever he’s out of her sight) she’s prideful, she won’t submit, she’s boastful about who she’s become, she’s self centered and not to mention bratty if things don’t go her way.
- 👩🏽 Lisa is cute, she still lives with her dad, works at a clothing store, she has her dreams written out on paper and is working toward them (but for now we’ll say they’re just dreams) she has a nice body (just not as nice as Brenda’s), her credit score is 600.
•Her character on the other hand is the opposite of Brenda’s! She is extremely pleasant•
- she’s peaceful, relatable, fun to be around, loving, serves others well, respects as well as listens to her man, she’s reserved (doesn’t open her mouth telling her friends every time there’s trouble in paradise), she’s trustworthy and trusts him, she encourages him, makes a hot plate and does it all with a smile on her face.
Now I hate to say this, but quite commonly these”Barking Brenda’s” become very angry when they see their dream prince put the glass slipper on a common “Lisa”.
Women like Brenda are focused on so many things such as (their social media status, buying a house and becoming an independent woman) That by the time they realize they want a husband, “they’re now 40 years old with a wall full of degrees, a pet cat 🐱 named “Foo-Fee“and a baddd attitude.. Meanwhile, the good men they passed up while chasing their dreams, have been happily married to a Lisa for over ten years.
Now please don’t misunderstand me ladies! There is absolutely nothing wrong with pursuing higher education! As a matter of fact, I commend all the women that have obtained alumni status!!! It takes a lot to hang in there! 👏🏽🎓
However, just be careful that you don’t allow vanity and pride to seep into your accomplishments, making you lose sight of what a wife really is! Although a degree may help you in the business world, it will not help you to become a good wife.
Honestly, if you truly want to be married, you should sit under some old wives who’ve been *Happily*married for 15-50 years. Pleaseee don’t get around some bitter old nagging woman whose husband sleeps in a different bedroom than hers! Honey please… the only advice that woman can give you is what not to do in a marriage. Chile‘… I wish my husband would say to me:
“I’m sleeping in the other room tonight cause I’m mad right now!”
Me: Grabs a pillow and follows him.
“Okayyy…well….I’m coming in there with you until you forgive me!”
Ima sit on your lap and everything!
And don’t let me make the “Do you forgive me now” face…
I don’t care what I have to do! Anger will not take root in me and my future hubby’s house! The Bible says, we are to pursue peace with all men and that is what I intend to do…
I want to end with this, there is nothing wrong with makeup, bodily exercise or wearing nice things. As a matter of fact, I pray that you invest in your outer appearance! Please, don’t walk around here SHOT to the United States saying, “Sista Takyah told us not to wear makeup,” The devil is a liar! You better put that makeup on! You know Mac and Maybelline have been good to you! Lol…
All I’m saying is, while taking an hour out of each day, just to “beat your face” make sure you’re putting that same amount of energy and time into your spiritual well being!
Once again it has been my absolute pleasure writing to you all!!!
P.S. Below is a song that I thought would be perfect for this topic! It’s amazing!
Click the link below to hear the song!
🎧“Make me Over by TONEX“🎧
I Look forward to hearing the responses from you Ladies!!
Love you girl!!