Are You Giving Your Bags to Your Man? or to Jesus??

    ⭐️⭐️(Caution:This is a deep read)⭐️⭐️

No one really wants to admit it, but everyone has bags. Bags from relationships, bags from past friendships, bags from childhood, JUST BAGS💼

Sometimes we as busy women are always working, moving and trying to be superwoman; It seems we never really have time to sit down & unpack those bags.

But what if I told you that holding onto your bags is exactly what’s keeping you right where you are…

  • Unhappy.☹️
  • Bitter. 😒
  • Lonely. 😔
  • Afraid. 😨
  • Unfulfilled.😐
  • Angry.😤

The list goes on and on, but praise Jesus that you don’t have to stay there sis! Trust me! If there is anyone who is skilled in unpacking bags, it is this lady “rightcha” here! So, stay tuned! While I share with you some of my personal experiences and how I learned to let Jesus do all that baggage dumping for me.

Okay! Here we go!

💼 Baggage from Relationships 💼

One of the heavy bags that I use to carry into every relationship was the bag of “Low self-esteem.”  Looking at me now, people would say “girlll you are lying!” But I promise I would, and not to mention it was the worse kind!

I would apologize when I hadn’t done anything wrong. I would allow men to walk ALL over me because I didn’t want them to leave. I would make up excuses for a man if he cheated on me; saying things like,”Maybe, I’m not “skinny enough” or “Maybe, if I wasn’t practicing abstinence he wouldn’t have slept with her.” When that was Not even the case!

Here is an example scenario: There I was trying to find my self worth in men; Depending on their compliments, their thoughts, and who they said I was; to determine who I really was. I didn’t stop to think, “What does God say about me?”  I remember reading the following scriptures for the first time, and when I did, I cried like a baby….It was like I could hear God saying.

  • ⭐️ “Takyah, why do you treat yourself this way when I died for you.”(John 3:16) 
  • “I have loved you with an everlasting love.”(Jeremiah 31:3)
  •  “Do you not know that you are fearfully and wonderfully made?”(Psalms 139:14) 
  • “I’ve even counted every strand of hair on your head, so how could you think you are worthless?”(Luke 12:7)
  • “Come to me! Get in my presence! Allow me to lift up your head and give you the fulfillment and joy you’ve been searching for!(Psalms 3:3) (Psalms 16:11) ⭐️

At first it was hard to believe, but when I’d finally grasped what Jesus thought about me.  I was set free! I began loving myself, spending time with myself, and finding joy in who God said I was! I no longer needed a man to be happy; I’d found happiness and fullness of Joy in the presence of God. Now instead of sucking energy out of a man that comes into my life; I can add to him, because my Joy comes from the Lord.

⭐️Note: If you are miserable before God sends you “the one” you will still be miserable after he comes. Even though you may be happy for the moment; if you’re trying to get fulfillment from anyone or anything other than Jesus, (spoiler alert) your thrill will be short-lived. 

💼 Baggage from Friendships 💼

I was always very open in high school, funny, easy to talk to, and I always related to everybody whether they were geeks, jocks or musicians. However, when I switched schools in the 10th grade all of that changed. I didn’t fit in anywhere

None of the girls liked me because of the way I looked and the guys didn’t care much for me either because I was a “virgin.” So all that year, I clung to my teachers and hung out with them. Which only made matters worse. Moreover, to add to all my other unwarranted titles, I had also become a teachers pet.

That year I felt so rejected and un-loved that I began shutting myself off from the world. I used food for comfort; and went from a size 5 to a size 13 in one semester! I also battled with thoughts of suicide.

Although, I went back to my old school for my 11th grade year, the damage was done. The  genuine friends: Jay-jay, Cookie & Tony I once cherished, looked different to me. They loved me, the best they could, but because I’d felt the sting of rejection. My trust for people declined greatly!

It wasn’t until two years ago that I began to pray to God and ask him to teach me how to💝 love again. I wanted God to show me that, not only could I trust him, but also the people that he would bring into my lifeI promised the Lord that if he gave me friend that really loved him and could care for me, I would cherish them & be the kind of friend that Ruth was to Naomi. Except this time, those stinky little bags: “Dis-trust” and “Rejection” would not get in the way!!

💼 Baggage from CHILDHOOD 💼

Whew… Jesus! Childhood??!?  Lorrrddd… let’s just end the blog right here, okay?.. Whew! 😅 

Lord give me strength lol


One bag from my childhood, that I had the most difficult time unpacking was a bag called: Fear 👀

When I was around the age of 4, my father left my mother and our family.. I was raised in a single parent home, with my two older siblings. My mother was working doubles, trying to provide food, clothes and everything else we needed, but it became too much for her without dads help. We then moved in with a close family member.

And that’s where this bag started to load up… The two years we lived with our relative, I was being molested. I was so afraid to tell my mom that I waited until I was pre-teen to tell her what happened. (I tried to give you a lighter bag…but that is the bag I felt God wanted me to share with you.)

After those things occurred, I developed a strong spirit of fear! I never went to sleep with the lights off. I would always look around me feeling like something bad was going to happen to me. I would have night terrors and see things that would cause me to stay up for days! I knew I had to do something! I could not go on like this! I prayed and the Lord led me to TBN one night. I was sitting in the living room when I heard this man named “Creflo Dollar” speak on the spirit of Fear!  I could not believe God loved me so much that he led me right to a program in the middle of the night, just so I could be free! See that’s why I love him like I do! After reading his book on “Overcoming fear” not only was I set free from the spirit of fear; my mom was set free! My brother was set free! My whole household! Even our dog “Napoleon” 🐶 was set free! Y’all… I am telling youAfter that bag was unpacked! I wasn’t scared of the devil anymore. He became scared of me!  

So to my beautiful ladies, whom I love so dearly, I want to leave you with this…

Bags can and will weigh you down if you allow them to! Thinking that a man will come along & take it all away is unfair to everyone in the situation. It’s unfair to you and it’s unfair to him! The best thing you could ever do, is hand them over to Jesus. He is the only man that truly wants to handle them!

Sincerely yours,

❤️️Takyah Love❤️


  1. Excellent read, very inspiring and heartfelt. The love of God (His Word) is a strong deliverer.. You are a blessing to the Kingdom of God!!!


  2. Good read woman of God. We don’t talk but I’m proud and of you and I’m rooting for you. Excited to see the journey that God is taking you.

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  3. I am elated by what I’ve read oh how I see myself with low self-esteem along with fear and yes I found my solution Jesus Christ I’m so thankful that God has used Takaya better yet she has given herself unto him so that others will be healed and blessesed by her life before and after Jesus Christ I am so proud of youTakaya To God Be The Glory!!!!!!!!

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  4. And when I say this was inspiring and encouraging to me!!!!! And I thought I was alone in this. This is absolutely touching but beautiful.. I love you takaya. I feel you on the isolation and fear part…I can relate to you on a lot of what you wrote about….may the Lord bless you on writting your book!!! I hope you wrote one…

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    • No you are not alone! Trust me sis! And I am happy you were encouraged by this! Yes I am writing a book for the singles! And thank you so much I receive all the blessings!!😊😘 love you!!


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